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destinyhoney777
Posts: 2
Registered: ‎01-23-2013

My mother disowned me.... I need a way to vent... please read and please Please listen!! Help!

Ok... My name is Destiny. I am 15. This is what happened: I am a fan of a group. Another croup says very mean and uncalled for things about fans of the group I like. It made me really angry so I posted on Facebook how much I was upset. My aunt saw the and read all of my messages. The ones before were about a boy who used me and I about how I don't like beInge skinny with no hips but my breasts are developed. So, my aunt called because she thought I was going to commit suicide.  I explained  what happened and she let it go. My mom got mad at me and tried to argue with me about it but said she was "bored" with the conversation because I didn't give her any answer or rebuttle but " ok" and "yes, I understand". So I went back to studying and she asked me how much I had left. i was confused with something and said "not sure. Spanish, math, and history I think"  without looking. She started the argument again and this time, I gave her details and answered her questions. However, she would yell at me and say I was being disrespectful because I was "raising my voice". I raised key voice because I was already saying something when she kept interrupting me. I was called a disrespectful kid and both of them said I was treating my mom like a "b**** off the street" by sitting the wrong way. She accused me of making those statuses about my godsister ( they think that since I used to think she was better than me that I still do and was being mean to her in Facebook. In actuality, my dad called her pretty and said that his "baby" was growing up. I just chair I liked her friends earrings. But they said I was being mean). I eventually showed them that I said nothing wrong and  they didn't bring up the fact that they were wrong. So, I said " if I'm a problem, I'll just grow up and move away." My mother took that to mean that I hate her and that I don't wanna talk to her. Something I never said. So she said "fine. Dont call me mom anymore!! I am never speaking to you again!!" I cried and she said I was a liar, asked my dad from a camera to record me, threw a tissue at me and told me to shut up. I was crying hard on the floor and praying out loud. She just said "yes God, do something with this girl!! If she doesn't get up and shut up, have her sent to a hospital and put on medication. " and then went upstairs. My dad made me apologize and she did Not. I decided to apologize to my godsister in case I ever did say anything mean to her. my parents helped raise her for only a few years when she was little and after that, her mom and mine had an argument and they didn't see her until she was 17. She visited like twice.  So I told her what happened before asking her and she went off about how she knows my mom and thinks it was all my fault and doesn't believe me. I tried to further explain but she said that was just not taking her "advice" and that I get in see situations because I'm rude. I asked her where I asked for advice, where I was being rude, and how  she knew my family more than me when I lived with them longer.  I told her what my original question was and she ignored me and kept going on about how I was only mad because she "didn't tell me what I want to hear" . I apologized for if I accidentally said anything wrong (I made sure I didn't because I was really really upset and if I said what I wanted to... She'd be in tears) and if she wanted to be mature, then she could And we could move on because she didn't really listen to me just went in. She did not reply so I assume she isn't willing to be the mature 18 year old she's supposed to be. this happens every time I express my feelings to my family. My mom even said I deserve to be bullied because I'm rude. Can you please give me ways to vent and express myself without talking to anyone?

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destinyhoney777
Posts: 2
Registered: ‎01-23-2013

Re: My mother disowned me.... I need a way to vent... please read and please Please listen!! Help!

p.s don't take this wrong. My mother is a good mom. We butt heads a lot because I always express myself. I just need a way to vent this way things like this don't happen anymore.

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xGeniiiii
Posts: 29
Registered: ‎06-26-2012

Re: My mother disowned me.... I need a way to vent... please read and please Please listen!! Help!

how about doing what u do best ?.. idk what it is , but try expressing yur talent and go at it .  Or write , listen to music , meditate .. all that (:    Im sorry bout yur situation ... sometimes parents mis understand or take the wrong idea..