Your Emotions

[picklegwen]

I'd like to call this a transition period in my life. I am not going back to college next semester and have had to move back home earlier than I thought I would. Since coming home about a week ago all I do is stay in bed. I can't bring myself to shower and I forget to eat and only have one meal a day around 12-1 am. I listen to music on my laptop all day. I go to sleep at 5 am and wake up at 3 pm. I'm not trying to do this, I just fell into this weird pattern when I got home. I'm thinking of asking my mom for anti-depressants or sleeping pills. I sort of feel docile and indifferent and not necessarily sad. Something in me just won't wake up. It's weird... Help?

[scuzz]

Wow you basically described my life lol at least at one point. My sleep schedule is getting a bit better. Though I mostly still just sit on the computer all day and rarely eat. Until I start to feel like crap around 12-1 and have to eat. Even my sleeping schedule is still a bit out of wack with the holidays I normally sleep 1/2am-1 pm. As of last semester I decided to drop out of college though I have always lived at home (I just commuted to college) but my parents don't know I plan on dropping yet.  I don't think I would suggest any drugs. After the holiday season here I myself am going to go back to applying for jobs and I am going start volunteering (to help my sleep schedule and to get some experience/references for job applications).

[flamingoccm]

I would say that asking your mom to see a counselor is going to be more effective than just asking to be medicated. That doesn't fix the underlying cause and you can't just go to a doctor's appointment and just request drugs. Maybe try focusing on the cause rather than the symptoms and try to fix that.

[alliecia]

I think it may help if you can visualize what lifestyle you want to have. You say you are not trying to forget to eat or sleep excessively, so what sort of daily habits would you like to have? My suggestion would be to decide what that is, and to work toward it. But do so in a highly nurturing way.

I know from personal experience that if I want to make a change in my own lifestyle, I have to do it in a very "self-loving"  way. So, if I decide I want to wake at a certain time, I will do basic things like set an alarm for that time and try to go to bed adquately before it, but I will supplement that by making sure I have a good breakfast plan and something fun to do after waking at that time. I'll do something like take a hot bubble bath and read a magazine, or make hot cocoa and play video games...anything I enjoy that feels good. After doing this routine with the goal (waking at a specific time), and the supplemental nurturing, I can slowly work to a point where I continue the pattern without needing the nurturing aspect of it. And thus a lifestyle habit is changed.

It is also important to remember that lifestyle habits are very difficult to change and take time. Don't try to tackle everything at once. You need to choose a key aspect (or a couple) and make an action plan of what you want to change and how to do it. If you are interested in having a psuedo lifestyle coach, send me a message. I'd be happy to talk about things and brainstorm with you. The reason I am willing to offer my help is because I am highly interested in functional lifestyle, and by helping you I could better understand if my methods for solving lifestyle problems can be effective for people other than myself.

Good luck!