When Girls Like Girls

[Robot14]

So I've been friends with the girl for around a year. We were at a party and we were both drunk and we kissed like 5 times. It wasn't a make out session or anything they were just pecks. It wasn't awkward afterward or anything. But I think she may have a crush on me. Im not opposed to having a relationship or experimenting with her. She pretty and funny and smart. But before I make a move I want to be more sure than I am right now because I don't want to ruin Our friendship. She's always trying to touch me or hug me in a joking lesbian way. Like she touches my ass, always wants to play with my hair, try's to hug me or hold my hand and once she put her hand on the inside of my thigh. We're always texting each other saying I miss you, I love you, we need to hang out more, we need to hang out just the two of us, and are friends always joke around saying we're lesbians. So what I'm asking is are these signs she is lesbian/bi/curios? And if so does she have a crush on me? And how/should I approach or make the move to us having relationship or "thing"? Thank you. Any advice is helpful.

[PowPowTheMental]

This same situation has happened with me. My bestfriend was always giving me these same exact signs and I would play along with her ya know in a jokingly way. We eventually did makeout one night at my house and we acted like it was nothing. I felt like she had a crush on me but I kept it all to myself. A few months later she actually admitted it to me once she got a boyfriend that she was crushing on me. There was no happy ending to us because I moved the very next day and we have very little contact...so the moral of my boring story is to probably wait for a few more signs, ask her some intimate questions like "Oh what if we did go out?" and stuff like that. If you get the reply you want, you need to jump headfirst and get setrious and ask her out or whatever. It's harder than it sounds but when aproaching these kind of things you have to be prepared to feel like a fool. Hope I helped.

[Robot14]

Ok thank you. So should I try and hook up with her first or just take it slow and cuddle with her. And should I try to hook up with her at a party or in private? I'm just confused by the whole thing. Also is it "normal" to experiment with another girl or does this mean I'm bi or lesbian?

[PowPowTheMental]

It's perfectly fine to want to experiment with other girls, that way by experimenting you can tell if you're bi or lez. But whatever makes you comfortable enough to do you can. You could go slow but theres that possibility you'll lose her or take it fast and still lose her. See what she does then determine how you should go for it.

[Robot14]

Ok thank you so much. Any other advice?

[PowPowTheMental]

Hmm, none I can think of.

[alyciadanielle]

I think you should just ask her, in private, if she likes you. No harm in that, and if she doesnt, it's no big deal, right? cause you dont feel anything for her, and if you do, maybe you should make the first move and ask her on a date, or just fench her again! See if she likes it!

[Robot14]

She told me "I'm only lesbian for you when I'm drunk". Is it normal for girls to hook up with other girls when there drunk (not to impress any guy) or does she just want an alibi for experimenting? What do you think?

[PowPowTheMental]

She might be a little embarrased about it or she just might only be lesbian for you when she's drunk. And yeah it's normal under some circumstances. Anyway if that's how she feels just move on with it. Unless you don't feel that she should be using you when she's drunk then tell her to back off but I know she's your bestfriend so if you fear your friendship will end, stick it out for her.