What's On Your Mind?

[princess789100]

ok so im really shy because i went through some stuff as a kid. im trying to open up more but everyone around me is so used to me not talking its hard. i live in a small town out in the middle of now where so there isnt much to do. i also have a huge crush on this one guy. he is sweet, smart, and so hot but he hardly even notices me. he knows my name and who i am and sometimes i catch him looking at me and he smiles when i look at him but he doesnt ever say anything to me and i dont know what to say to him. he speaks mostly spanish but i dont know spanish. he knows english but he gets embarassed when he doesnt say a word right. there is also a dance coming up in a few weeks and i want to go with him but i dont know what to do to get him to ask me. i really dont want to ask him. i have never had a boyfriend and my mom teaches at the high school so if i did anything with him she would find out. i dont think she would approve of him but i still really like him. im not sure what im even asking advice for in this post but if anyone has something to say feel free to say it

[princess789100]

oh come on. someone must have something to say. im going to school today and im gonna try to talk to him a little bit. i dont know when and i dont know what its going to be about, but im gonna try. i feel like crap because my sinuses are draining and i cant talk right but im gonna try not to let that bother me today

[ElizabethIrene]

You already answered your question...if you had a question...

But just play it cool. Don't think too much about it and even though you have a crush on this guy, it doesn't mean you can't have a convo with him. Just go up to him and say something like "Are you going to the dance? I'm soo excited to go. Who are you going with?"

That's all I got.

[princess789100]

well its not always that easy. i dont ever talk to him and he always has his friends around him. i dont have any classes with him except p.e. but we usually do a boy team and a girl team, we are are very rarely mixxed up. i dont really get many chances to talk to him with out others butting in. a few of the guys in my grade still my old reputation from like second and third grade . they tend to treat me like im still that person.

anyways he wasnt at school and wont be back for a while. he went to spend thanksgiving in mexico with his family

[ElizabethIrene]

Well, I don't know about your "reputation" in the second and third grade but I'm pretty sure all of that will blow over when you hit middle school(if you haven't gone to middle school yet)

Anyway, just be friends with him, and if it doesn't work out with getting closer to him, it won't be the end of the world.
You'll be fine.

[princess789100]

i will be in high school next year. and like i said there are only a few people who still remember but its those few people who remind me about it everyday. its not that i dont know what to say (well it is kind of im not great at starting conversations bt i can keep them going) its just i cant find a time or place to say them

[ElizabethIrene]

That's cool

I mean, if you can't start a conversation, its not like he can't come to you and talk. I mean, I befriended a boy at my highschool who was from Venezuela....and a girl who was from Ukraine. She couldn't speak very good English, but we understood eachother.

But that's kind of a different story, anyway, when you see him, instead of connecting eyes at each other, just wave or say hello and maybe when you do see him sitting down by himself or something, you can start a convo by asking how his Thanksgiving was with his family in Mexico....That should he something...

And whatever your reputation was in second and third grade, if people are trying to "remind" you of what happened, just say, "Look, I know what happened, you don't have to keep reminding me because I was there!" "So just grow up and let it go because I'm done with it, as you also should be!"

I mean, if anybody still cares about something so long ago, that pretty much means they have no life of their own.. And I'm even sure the situation probably isn't even that bad, anyway.

[princess789100]

most of the time i dont wave or do something other than stare at him. i thought he was going to ask me out last year. long story short he said something about me in spanish to his cousin while they were behind me. it was around the time of the dance last year. his cousin yelled "really" then turnined to me and said " hey courtney would you go......" but he started yelling something in spanish and then looked at me and blushed. but that was only a week after he moved here. ever since then i do catch him looking at me a lot but i dont know if he just happened to be looking around randomly and our eyes just meet (that happens to me with a lot of people) or he is actually looking at me, ya know? im kind of a beleiver that the guy should make the first move and i think thats part of it

[ElizabethIrene]

If he's not doing anything but gives off vibes that he might like you, then just let him make the first move. I'm also a believer the guy should make the first move but I also feel if the girl has already done things or gave ideas to the guy that she likes him and he still hasn't done anything, then the girl should find a guy that isn't too shy, embarrassed, or whatever to finish what she started.

If he doesn't try anything or nothing simply has changed, just be friendly to the guy and move on to someone else. I mean, ya done all you can do, ya know?

And once again, he's a boy! Even he might not have enough confidence to muster up to ask ANY female out.

It is what it is.

I feel a girl should have a man (not a boy) in her life and that isn't afraid to take charge and say "Hey, you know, I like you also, lets hang out!" If he can't do that, move on.

[princess789100]

ok im pretty sure it has nothing to do with him being shy. he has had quit a few girlfriends and he even kissed one of my old friends but he broke up with her after only three days (not that i blame him, she changed a lot this year). my bff says he likes me more than the other girls he has asked out and thats why he wont ask me, but i dont know