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WiseGurl
grlygirl40992
Posts: 80
Registered: ‎11-15-2011

am i just a last resort?

gurls please read this. i know i am not on here often and I do not try to talk to anyone but I am literally at rock bottom and don't know what to do. please. i beg of you to read this

 

me and my ex were together just shy of 7 months. he brokeup with me bc he said i dont make an effort to know his friends and we are just "different". We have talked every day since (he brokeup with me on the 13th of December) and hes been the one to bringup memories and sexual stuff, etc. He said he doesnt want to get back together any time soon but he will always have hope. He is even coming to my grandma's viewing Wednesday. He recently, and right now, told me we talk every second I get the opportunity and its becoming too much, and I agree but I can't help it. He doesnt wanna get back together for a while but does miss and love me but then says he needs space. We spent everyday together at school and I feel like the arguing about nothing and being together 247 got to be too much and the only solution he could think of was to end it. The other day and today he even said that he doesnt want to have sex with anyone unless it is with me and we are together.

 

He said he still wants to see me and hangout and stuff but he just needs space, which i get. but i just dont know what hes thinking. everybody always said how crazy he was about me and how we are so perfect and even he said this and always compliments me still. i was recently diagnosed with social anxiety disorder which really was the stem of all our problems (not talking to his friends, over thinking everything, feeling judged, not going to his social events for his frat bc of being too nervous) , which ive tried to stress to him and he keeps saying be positive the past is the past..which makes me go crazy bc i feel hes leading me on. he is NOT the type of guy to keep me hanging until someone else comes along, please trust me. he is such a gentleman and keeps apologizing and saying he doesnt want to hurt me. i need an outside opinion other than my friends because they know us too well. 

 

he always says he will never get anyone as pretty as me and no girls ever like him and it was such a shock when i talked to him because no girls ever talk to him and he doesnt know how to approach them. so this is another reason why i feel he will come back. i know im young (20) and i know i may be naiive, but i can't explain it- me and him are just meant to be together, and i feel like this is why we havent stopped talking

 

 

thank you for reading this and please help me

WiseGurl
PowPowTheMental
Posts: 455
Registered: ‎07-19-2012

Re: am i just a last resort?

To be frank with you, you might be like you typed, he doesn't know how to approach other girls so he probably goes to you because such reason. He could have been a little more sensitive on your disorder and gave the relationship another chance. But even though this is tacky, I must say you have to follow your heart. Whatever choice you make, either going back to him or breaking the relationship ties there will be the consquences to follow. But if I was ever put in this situation which I have I chose to keep us just friends and pretend we never even dated because it was both tearing us in the inside. Just set free. I hope I helped.










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WiseGurl
grlygirl40992
Posts: 80
Registered: ‎11-15-2011

Re: am i just a last resort?

oh i completely understand. he might feel like he cant get anyone else so thats why he isnt leaving like not talking. we'll talk all the time then out of nowhere he'll be like oh well you try to talk to me every opportunity you get. he says he needs space and doesnt wanna get back together anytime soon then wants to see me and come to my grandmas viewing which he said isnt up for discussion. last night he said we tlk to much so i stopped texting him cold turkey and he knew i was upset so he asked if i was ok and i was like why and he says because he always asks if im ok and i never replied and he texted me an hour later and i didnt reply. im tired of always making the effort with him so now im waiting for him to come to me

WiseGurl
PowPowTheMental
Posts: 455
Registered: ‎07-19-2012

Re: am i just a last resort?

yeah, you go girl! Let him come to you...you've done so much already. Now let it play out.










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