What's On Your Mind?

[RLynn207]

Me and my best friend have been friends since elementary school and now we're seniors. We've always been there for each other and would hang out almost every day! Now, that she has a boyfriend, we don't hang out anymore. She always stands me up when I try to make plans with her. Everytime I call or text, I never get a reply. Like, I invited her over for a movie night and she never replied back. When I asked her the next day why she didn't reply, he and her boyfriend just laughed and she said she was busy doing something else. I didn't find it funny at all because, she could have at least told me that she didn't want to instead of not letting me know anything at all. I haven't said anything to her about it because I know she would tell her boyfriend, and if she told him then they would both just say I'm some jealous freak. Lately, we just haven't talked about anything or hung out.  It just hurts me to see our friendship slowly going down the drain. 

[that_goth_chick]

Ugh. Been there, not in the same way, but I've been there. Not much I can say, but just keep being there for her. Sooner or later something might go wrong with her BF, and it's a **bleep** feeling to only exist when you're needed, but for some reason, girls change when they get a boyfriend, and most of the time, its for the worse. Good luck and I hope it all works out. :/

[JediiOfTheSeaa]

I went through the same exact thing this year! A few days she started writing me agian. I was unsure about it though, and there is nothing you can really do. Just give her space,let her make her own decisions, trust me hun she will come back! Everyone just needs a little space.

[Jordiebird09]

Been there done that, some friendships can be for life an some can be faded.

But this sounds like it could last, just be there for her, But if she doesn't talk to you in few weeks or months it could also be

the boyfriend he could be controling her as well. Thats not a good thing ither than thats when she could actually need you more than ever!!!

[ElizabethIrene · Accepted solution]

I have experienced it and at one time, I was that girl. I just completely vanished one time...with that being said, this is the best advice I can give you:

Don't invite her, don't call her, don't ask her what happened to her, just let her do her thing. Yeah, it sucks but if you keep asking her and keep looking for her, she and her little boyfriend will make it seem like you're crazy and jealous. Don't let him talk about you to her, right now she's blinded with love (I personally believe that will not last long...at all) and wants to be left alone.

When it doesn't work out (because high school couples rarely do) she will understand what has happened. She will know she has pushed you away and since she believed you weren't that important and just basically dumped you for some guy, you moved on with different friends that won't treat you like that and definitely won't let their "significant other" talk about you or disrespect you.

I'm not saying don't be her friend anymore, I'm saying let her build her own web and watch it unravel. What you can do for yourself is find other friends, go out with them and have fun, keep yourself busy and keep your distance from her because right now and until this relationship ends, she is not dependable.

[docgirl]

I can relate to how you feel I've lost a bff before granted mine was like one moment we were talking to each other and best friends and then the next she was gone all because I overreacted one night since I was tired well basically the story was that me, my boyfriend, and other friend showed up to my aunt and uncle's party separately and her mom dropped her off I thought her mom was supposed to come pick her up anyways my boyfriend offered her a ride home and I did not feel like waiting an extra hour to go home so I was really overreacting that night mostly angry at her and then the day after she tells me we are no longer friends I tried to make things right I told her how sorry I was and how bad I felt and that I was even so depressed about it I thought about killing myself (this was over a year ago I'm no longer depressed now) and I tried sending her flowers did the best I could to tell her I was sorry and then she said I was harassing her so that made it worse so anyways I decided to just leave it alone and move on it still hurt but I decided moving on was best we were best friends since I was a junior in high school so five years so yeah it took some time and it still hurts a little but not as much as it did just comes up from time to time now and so yeah since I had that experience I can understand how losing someone dear to you hurts