What's On Your Mind?

[messymoo]

So I think this may be anxiety 

I will give you a example of what IM talking about, one time I was shopping with my mum (I was 14) and it was a stressful situation, I hate shopping and I went into the cubical to try my things on, I got to my third piece of clothing and broke down crying even the memory brings me to tears I was crying for a mixture of reasons- I felt everyone was watching me and judging, I felt fat, my mum was being impatient and embarrassed me. The thing is things like this don't just happen once to me its happened in school, shopping (4 times), sleepovers, trips around cities. It makes me tired, sluggish and feel that IM not important, I've had to cancel fun plans because of my worry that this will happen

Am I just a over emotional baby or is this a actual problem?

[stayclassy]

I don't think it's anxiety. I think it has to do with your self esteem. All of the sudden it hits you but I'm sure you at least feel it a little bit at all times.

For example, while shopping you thought people were judging you, you were fat etc. Then what happens in sleep overs??? Do you think your friends are judging you for something else? Are you thinking you're not good enough to hang out with them or something?

Give me another example this has happened to you. Either in school, on trips, or sleep overs.

Feeling like you're not important is a self esteem issue.

[fairesthippie]

The same thing happens to me... I get made fun of at school because I burst into tears all the time... I even faint...people think I'm a,cry baby...you're not alone... It's called a self esteem attack... I feell worthless too... I know the hurt and humiliation you feel...

[messymoo]

Its not that i don't feel like im worthy of my friends they all respect me and know who i am inside

Yeah it might be self esteem issues!, Well in school i have a  teacher, he's really nice and he understands teenager problems but that day i was feeling terrible, i fought with my mum in the car before school so i felt like the world was against me and i had history with that specific teacher and i'm normally attentive in history and easily understand it but i was far away in class that day and he said in the middle of talking 'Melissa are you ok you seem in a daydream' i felt myself go red and asked to go to the toilet and sat there and cried for 10 mins and didn't want to go back out in fear that pupils will see i had been crying Xx

[messymoo]

aw it must be horrible to faint omg! Do you know any tips to help? Xx

[alegnatm]

It sounds like anxiety attacks to me. When I get them my heart races and I go kind of numb. I wont talk to anyone and sometimes i get an empty feeling but at the same time my mind is doing a million miles an hour over all the things that are bothering me.

What I have done is figured out when they are coming (I know the initial feelings and some triggers) and most of the time I can calm myself and make it stop with I guess you could call it an almost meditation.

[messymoo]

Thanks, is there anything you think i should do about it? x

[alegnatm · Accepted solution]

Well I mean you pretty much have three options

-Find a way to live with it the way it is, which I don't think you should do since it seems to be keeping you from doing normal activities.

-try to work through it on your own and learn to prevent the attacks the way I did.

-seek professional help, which I would recommend since it seems like these crying spells are pretty intense and probably a sign that you are bottling your feelings, so having someone to talk to will probably help. Especially if its a professional who can help you sort out your thoughts.

[messymoo]

Thankyou very much, for understanding and giving advice i will ask my mother about it all seriously thanks a lot! Xx

[alegnatm]

You are welcome, I am glad I could help you