What's On Your Mind?

[ddmomma]

So I'm 19 and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 16 months and we are in love he wants kids but is still wearing condoms I want to surprise him at Christmas with a positive test. So my question is can I drain the cemen out of our used condoms and enject it in me? What's the chances of pregnacy. Our condoms have spermicide on them.

[beccsx0x]

...Please tell me this is a joke.

Babies shouldn't be a "surprise" at 19 years old. If you and him want to have a baby NOW, then TALK to him about it. Otherwise, it's like you're trapping him in a relationship. Let me put it this way- if he's still wearing condoms, HE DOESN'T WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN RIGHT NOW.

Seriously, I hope you're joking. You sound psychotic. If you're serious, I really hope your boyfriend gets out of your relationship ASAP.

[ddmomma]

He is 24 and we have money he is out of college and says that he will be happy when it happens he don't let me get on birth control we don't use condoms every time and sometimes he don even pull out so idk

[beccsx0x]

---

ddmomma wrote:
He is 24 and we have money he is out of college and says that he will be happy when it happens he don't let me get on birth control we don't use condoms every time and sometimes he don even pull out so idk

---

It's still something you should be talking about before turkey-basting your vagina with his sperm that you've taken out of a condom. I mean- seriously? If you want a kid, and you think he's ready you should act like the adult you'll need to be when you have a kid and sit down and talk to him. See if he's ready for one, if he wants to legitimately try to have a kid. Then if you end up pregnant, at least you know that he's completely in it with you, and was actively trying WITH you- not you grabbing his used condoms and trying to squish it all back into you. I mean, come on. Imagine you're him and you find out your girlfriend is pregnant- and then you find out the LENGTHS she went to to become pregnant WITHOUT consulting you first. It would be seriously, seriously **bleep**ed up of you to just go for it without talking about it first. Grow up, and talk to him.

[alice_doll]

---

beccsx0x wrote:

---

ddmomma wrote:
He is 24 and we have money he is out of college and says that he will be happy when it happens he don't let me get on birth control we don't use condoms every time and sometimes he don even pull out so idk

---

It's still something you should be talking about before turkey-basting your vagina with his sperm that you've taken out of a condom. I mean- seriously? If you want a kid, and you think he's ready you should act like the adult you'll need to be when you have a kid and sit down and talk to him. See if he's ready for one, if he wants to legitimately try to have a kid. Then if you end up pregnant, at least you know that he's completely in it with you, and was actively trying WITH you- not you grabbing his used condoms and trying to squish it all back into you. I mean, come on. Imagine you're him and you find out your girlfriend is pregnant- and then you find out the LENGTHS she went to to become pregnant WITHOUT consulting you first. It would be seriously, seriously **bleep**ed up of you to just go for it without talking about it first. Grow up, and talk to him.

---

Yes.

[worthless-tear…]

He is still wearing a condom for a reason..have you ever thought of that? he won't let you get off your BC and is still wearing a condom...

herp derp.

[echojax]

You need to talk to your boyfriend and plan this TOGETHER. Surprising someone with a baby is one of the worst things someone can do, especially if they are being decieving and doing it without their partner knowing. If you're boyfriend wanted a baby RIGHT NOW he would not be wearing condoms.

Please just talk to him about this and plan it together with him. Just because he wants one today, does not mean he'll want one in 2 months. 

And just because he's out of college and has a job, does not mean you're ready for a baby. Babies are easier when planned and when the two of you can save money TOGETHER BEFORE getting pregnant. 

[niamh-guinevere]

My hopes for humanity are quickly fading.

[boomtiing_ox]

I think you accidentally put a 1 infront of your age...

[ddmomma]

He won't let me on BC you need to learn how to read! And I talked to him today. ITs TIME TO STaRT TRYING! No more condoms