What's On Your Mind?

[Gorgeous Ty]

So im talking to this guy who is 23. Im 17. Am i wrong for talking to him cuz of the age difference?

[Brokenblue84]

Talking to as a friend or dating? I dont think its wrong, but I do think its risky considering you are technically a minor until you turn 18. I always dated older guys, but my parents were well aware and completly okay with it. When I was 16 my boyfriend was 25, but I still had the rules of a teenager i.e curfew, no sleepovers, if he came over I couldnt be in a room with the door shut. If you are sexually active with him it could cause alot of trouble for him if you two break up or your parents find out (assuming they dont already know). I have never dated a guy that wasnt my age or older, but there are legal ramifications for it eventhough your almost an adult.

[naughtylicious]

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Gorgeous Ty wrote:

So im talking to this guy who is 23. Im 17. Am i wrong for talking to him cuz of the age difference?

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The big question is "do you like / love him?" If the answer is "yes" and you are confident of how you feel in your mind and heart then go for it. Only you can make that decision. There are rules, laws, parents, etc etc. But you are 17!! You have a mind of your own. Do you believe you are a minor or underage person apart from the definition? Do you think you are intelligent enough to make up your own mind? or do you want the law or parents to decide that for you and to lose out on love???? I think there is too much preoccupation with age differences and people lose out on having a great relationship because they have focussed on just one aspect ie age and have totally disregarded other things that are so important to a relationship ie friendship, mental compatability, common interests etc. My advice for a lasting relationship is to make sure he is your "friend" and you need to be insynch wrt emotions, mind, intellect, spirituality and physically too. Age should be the last thing on your mind. There are many disasters with going out with guys your own age. Just because you choose someone of your own age isnt a guarantee that all will be well. I know there will be many who will criticize this comment but having had a bf who is much older and having started very early, I know from first hand experience that age is irrelevant. I didnt give a damn for the law. To me love was more important and I worked around that.

[apple-tart]

Ok you are way to young for that. I for one think that any guy that age is kinda a creeper if we would even consider dating someone that is under 18.

[stayclassy]

I think the age gab is too big. I'm 24 now and my life was completely different at 17. You're in different stages of life and why can't he find someone his own age..

[amberbabie]

I'll be 16 next month but my boyfriend is 19. I see nothing wrong with older guys as long as you set an age limit for yourself like for me I won't date a guy 4-5 years older than me

[emobabygurl45]

I was in the same situation Im also 17 and was talking to a 23 year old i turn 18 in 4 months but me and the 23 year old were just friends he got a gf and I got over it but I dont care about the age difference

[firestorm104]

i'm with naughtylicious on this one, just as long he respects you and treats you right (which no matter what age you are, a guy always should!!!), and like with any relationship, especially ones with more than a few years age difference, watch out for any warning signs of guilting you or pressuring you. if it begins to cause issues for you, your parents, friends/life, then wait until you're 18, because at this point in your life, you don't want/need that kind of drama which could definitely have consequences. age difference isn't always a bad thing (i'm 18, he's 13 years older, but we treat each other with the utmost respect, listen without ever fighting, and support each other with what it is we each want, because having individuality gives you that much more to give in a relationship. he gives me this inner freedom to be who i am and encourages it, and he's the reason i wake up with a smile every morning ), but just make sure that he is what you want, and never be afraid to break up or say if it's not working. communication and trust is everything

[smiles108]

if i was in that position, i would say,"love him? or leave him?"

[alifear]

Thats not bad at all. If you look at it in the grand scheme of things 6 years isn't too long at all x