Relationship Issues & Advice

[cestin_forever]

well.... over the winter break my ex and i talked til 3 in the morning and i found out he likes me and i told him i liked him. its was a cute and entertaining way of how we found out. I found out the real reason why he broke up with me and it was because of family problems. A few days ago i asked him out againand he said no because he has more problems that are personal and that he doesnt really want to tell anybody. He also mentions hes not in the dating condition right now. i still like him a lot. should i wait ffor him? or no?

[veronicababy]

Hello! I wouldn't wait for him. Be his friend but dont miss out on other opportunities because your waiting for this guy would could very well not even being honest with you. Be his friend but dont waste your time and don't miss out on something that could be really great ! 

[back@u]

wait for what? for him to open up his journal to check when is he free for you? 

sometimes people have problems.. i don't know the guy so i don't doubt that he's telling the truth.  i think you and the family are different matters so he could definitely have a relationship with you. HOWEVER it seemed that he made a decision.. if the family problems are too much for him right now then maybe he isn't ready for a girlfriend after all.  he has his problems and perhaps feels that he has nothing to give..  when he will that's when he'll be ready for a girlfriend.  right now he needs to handle his life.  you have to understand that love doesn't work sometimes because the timing is off. 

the best thing for you to do is to let go.  being in a platonic (friendly) relationship with him will be hard for you because feelings are involved. maybe it will make you mislead yourself.  you asked him out and he said no,  so that is that.... if he changes his mind any time soon he knows how to find you. 

[cestin_forever]

well.. him n i talk a lot. n e ave our weird convos. and we have our sweet ones. ihave decided ill wait. he said he loves me. and he doesnt even know why i talk to him half the the time. its hard to let go of him. thanks for the advice though!

[back@u · Accepted solution]

that's an interesting way of showing love... i think you are making a mistake but since you have made your mind i only hope that luck will by on your side. 

[flamingoccm]

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cestin_forever wrote:

well.... over the winter break my ex and i talked til 3 in the morning and i found out he likes me and i told him i liked him. its was a cute and entertaining way of how we found out. I found out the real reason why he broke up with me and it was because of family problems. A few days ago i asked him out againand he said no because he has more problems that are personal and that he doesnt really want to tell anybody. He also mentions hes not in the dating condition right now. i still like him a lot. should i wait ffor him? or no?

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He said he's in no condition to date you. He has family issues he won't even tell you about. He did not ask you to wait for him, so why sit there pining away over a guy who didn't ask you to? If you both still feel the same way once his family issues have worked out and he feels like he's "in the dating condition," then you can readdress the situation. However, it doesn't make sense to hold out for a guy who may never really be interested in dating you again. 

[stayclassy]

No you shouldn't wait for him.

How do you know he for sure will date you when he's finished with the family problems? If that's what it really is.

[cestin_forever]

so.. you all said i shouldnt wait for him. well... i did wait. and yesterday he asked me out. and i said yes. im glad i did wait!

[stayclassy]

Uh... ever think that even if you didn't wait for him, you probably wouldn't have gotten a different boyfriend in 2 weeks? lol... he would have still asked you out and it would have worked out anyway.

[back@u]

and luck was surely by your side!  the guy got his senses together and figured whatever problems he had aren't worth losing you.  i'm happy it worked out for good