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do you think still ok if your boyfriend scold you ?
Hi, could someone help me to give any comment about this? I have boyfriend that always scold me everytime he feel low or distrust of anything. For example, once he got stress from work then call me at nite, somehow the internet connection that time so slow, he thought that i download something or chatting with other guys so can make the connection until like that, then he scold me. Even i already explain, he dont want to hear. When i explain he just thought that I only give him an argue. It happened so many times. When he's stress or sick.
It also happen when I'm late or cannot do something that he ask, he will think that I'm not treasure this relationship then will scold me again, even i already give him explaination one by one. I try to be patient but seems he's not tolerant at all. He will think that I'm too lazy, only like to eat and sleep and stupid, etc.. Even he scold "shut up your **bleep**ing mouth and listen to me!!!" ~ it happened when i try to explain..
FYI, i have this as a LDR for 1 year, but we met quite often in 1 year...
I'm so tired, I already try to ask him at least respect me a little to note say something rude. But he said he did that for me, because I'm the kind of person that will move after he kick me ~he said 
What should I do? I love and care for him, but seems I have limit for that too
even still sad, yesterday i can't take it anymore.. i feel so stress and low when he did it again.. then i blurt "so you wanna break up with me?" He really mad and shout at me again. He said why i asked like that when he already be so nice to me. i know when he's not stress or feel low, he won't do like that to me and be so nice to me but too much already. Especially after i said "please don't say like that to me, you hurt me. at least you respect me" but he said "u need to earn that" .Make me shocked....How come a relationship can last without a respect? But the funny thing i feel guilty to make him hurt
especially when i remember how nice he is in normal condition. He said that his words only irritating, but my words is severity.. I even beg for his forgiveness but he doesnt want.. Feel relieved but yet feel guilty
Please help me what should i do.. might be i dumb because of this love
It's true that love makes you do crazy things but if you feel like he didn't respect you... don't beg forgiveness and don't try to get back together with him. That'll only make him more controlling and disrespectful if he takes you back, and really glad that you're suffering if he doesn't. Try to take your mind off of him, just go do something else to avoid thinking about him and if you have to cry or talk about your feelings it's ok. If you have something you want to tell him, write him a letter and then rip it into tiny pieces and throw it away (don't send it to him). It's tough getting over someone but most people live through it and you can always think about how much he's made you hurt with his actions.
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Thank you for Mandakim and ForeverMarlene.. you both really open my eyes
How come a relationship can last without a respect? But the funny thing i feel guilty to make him hurt
I even beg for his forgiveness but he doesnt want.. Feel relieved but yet feel guilty
you really should get away from this guy.
definitely DON'T beg for his forgiveness. he's the one who should be begging for your forgiveness.
he's arrogant and like he's making your life unhappy.
tell him, and make him understand that unless he changes his attitude to you in a BIG way, you're breaking up with him.
he'll probably come crawling around telling you he's so sorry and he'll never treat you badly again.
don't believe him. if you do give him another chance, he'll just go back the way he is now.
for your safety and peace of mind, you should dump him NOW and make sure he knows there's no going back.
