Relationship Issues & Advice

[veronicababy]

So I met this kid at work we were texting alot pretty much every day than we hooked up. That day we spent a hours together watching movies before we had sex. We had a friends with benefits agreement. The night after he texted me stay that he had a good time. Then I texted him and he was like I had a lot of fun but I don't think we should hook up constantly I mean every now and then would be okay. So then I didn't answer him and then the next night he texted me I hope you have a good trip only one more night of work for you. And we chatted for a little until he ended it with hahaha. And he's constantly liking all my stuff on Facebook. So then I texted him on vacation slightly drunk and we were texting and then I finally asked because to be honest I am a little offended that he brought this up after he saw me naked He said I"I hope I didn't offend you but I just don't think it's right to keep fooling around with you when you are a cool ass girl an. I don't wanna do that too you" so I don't really under stand what he means who wouldn't wanna foold around with a "cool ass girl" and why he's feeling the need to explain so much since it was supposed to just be friends with benefits thing? Did he hate the sex ?  He also sent this "look I've never done anything like this before and it sounded good in my head and in theory it just isn't going to work " then he asks me how my trip is going. Can someone just explain what happened? Seriously doubting myself right now. 

[AlyssaRenee999]

From what I read I think it sounds like he wasn't raised to have a relationship like that. I think he respects you too much to I guess have a just sex relationship and that maybe he likes you as more than just that and wants and actual relationship. I don't think it has anything to do with your body or the sex not being good. Lol. Maybe you should talk to him and ask him more about it. Only he has the exact answers. Hope this helps.

[veronicababy]

Thank you for answering. Before all this we had talked about how right now he doesn't want anything serious which is why we agreed on the friends with benefits relationship. I played it very cool didn't get clingy or anything. It got to the point that if I didn't text hi for 24 hours I'd get a text like het haven't heard from you hope things are going good. I don't wanna be that girl who's like all up needing to know everything. Plus those are the responses Igot when I asked him wha. Made him change his mind. So how do I go about finding out what he wants with out being annoying? Thanks sorry for any typos silly iPad lol

[mandakim]

it sounds to me like he can feel himself getting closer to you and he's really not in a position right now to feel that way.

i think he really likes you a lot more than just a fwb thing.

he respects you and doesn't want to "cheapen" the relationship by making it just a sex thing.

[AlyssaRenee999]

Has he texted you since then? Like what have you guys beent talking about lately? If he's trying to create a conversation i think he likes you. But if you really want to know i say meet up somewhere and be blunt and ask what he wants you two to be.

[veronicababy]

So what do you think I should do, just  continue being his friend and see what happens? 

[veronicababy]

Yes we have texted about my vacation the most recent textwas was the One about my vacation where he said I don't wanna ruin your vacation have a good time and maybe you'll come back with a Florida tan and a big hangover and we chit chatted about for three messages after that him telling me to be safe and me saying safe is over rated and then him leaving it at that. What do you think ? 

[scuzz]

If he doesn't already have feelings for you I think he feels like if he continued to have sex with you that he would start having more feelings for you or realized he doesn't want to have emotionless sex and noticed it normally isn't easy to keep sex emotionless. He might want to be in a relationship with you now but thinks you don't want to be and thats why you agreed to fwb or he might not really want a serious relationship right now and thought the fwb might lead to that so he still really might not want to be in a relationship. Though it sounds like either way he still cares about you as a friend and I doubt there was anything wrong with you or the sex.

[veronicababy]

Thanks ! What should my next step be? I don't want to come off attached, crazy, and needy. The reason I agreed to fwb was because of how it could really go anywhere. So I do like him idk how much but how do I find out what he wants without being overbearing ? Thanks girls <3

[AlyssaRenee999]

If you don't want to ask him directly if you're friends with anyone he's firmiliar with ask them to find out!