Relationship Issues & Advice

[rkd88]

So, i've been "friends, but a little more" with this guy I really like for about a year now. And he asked me out on valentine's day, so I thought he was going to ask me to be his girlfriend and make it official.(The only reason it hasn't been official yet is because my parents said no, but now they changed their mind.)

The date was kind of awkward, and he wasn't himself. After, he texted me saying he wanted to just be friends. Then like an hour later, he texts me and says we should stay how we are: friends, but more than.

I don't know what to think! What do I do?! I'm pretty sure I love him. And he loves me too, he always tells me. Help please!!!

[mandakim]

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rkd88 wrote:

So, i've been "friends, but a little more" with this guy I really like for about a year now. And he asked me out on valentine's day, so I thought he was going to ask me to be his girlfriend and make it official.(The only reason it hasn't been official yet is because my parents said no, but now they changed their mind.)

The date was kind of awkward, and he wasn't himself. After, he texted me saying he wanted to just be friends. Then like an hour later, he texts me and says we should stay how we are: friends, but more than.

I don't know what to think! What do I do?! I'm pretty sure I love him. And he loves me too, he always tells me. Help please!!!

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sounds like you're friends with benefits.............and it also sounds like he wants to keep the relationship as it is and like have no committment.

if you're ok with that, then fine but it also means he's free to go with other girls at the same time....and if you're not ok with that, if i were you i'd tell him that he should make up his mind because you're not gonna wait forever

and if i'm wrong about the friends with benefits thing............forget i replied to your post lol

[rkd88]

I's not like a friends with benefits situation, we haven't even like, kissed or anything yet, and it's been a year. He's just always there for me, and I am for him. It's like a bestfriend i'm in love with....

thanks for the help anyways<3

[kizzme14]

It sounds like he is confused. 
It also sounds like you are confused.

I have a a magic solution. 

Talk to each other about it! 

If you're such good friends, and you love each other you should be able to have a conversation about your emotional wants and needs.

Goodluck! 

[cutexdancer]

JUST ASK HIM. 

say something like 'You know, I thought that when we went out, we were finally gonna make it official, is there a reason you just want to be friends now?' and see what he says. You can sit here and guess what the reason is all you want, but you'll never really know until you ask.

and if you does give you a legitimate reason why, I would say to JUST be friends with him. nothing more.

[rkd88]

He says he just lost his desire for a relationship over time, but he still loves me...

[kizzme14]

so you figured it out, then?

He loves you, he's not in love with you. If you want the relationship factor, move on. If you're good with things now, stick around. Nothing will develop though, if he doesn't want it to. Respect that. Respect yourself also, if you really do want the official title, go find it elsewhere.

[rkd88]

No...he's still in love with me?...we're just both really confused right now?

[stayclassy]

He clearly doesn't want a relationship.

[kizzme14]

If he was in love with you, he'd want to be in a relationship with you and never let you go. Theres little room for confusion when you/re IN love with someone.