Relationship Issues & Advice

[cdutchie]

I have been thinking about signing up n sugar daddy website, and it is very tempting! I'm just wondering what other girls think of it, or id anyone is in a sugar daddy/baby relationship??

[alegnatm]

Prepare for judgement, and i definitely think people will look down upon you for it.

I don't pereonally see anything wrong with it, as long as both parties are happy, and no ones doing anything they don't want to.

[scuzz]

1st you don't have to post the same thing under 3 different board topics.

2nd I am generally very open minded and hell if it doesn't bother me or effect anyone else negatively I don't really care if someone chooses to be in a relationship like that but at the same time personally I just think it is completely stupid and even wrong. I know it is stereotyped too but I think there is a lot of truth behind the stereotype as there is with any other stereotype.

It is generally an older man who has nothing going for him but his money. Meaning he is likely either self-centered and a jerk or maybe just boring so much so he can't form his own relationship without his money. Also as it is stereotyped he is essentially paying for sex. So don't expect him to just give you money without anything in return and don't expect anything more from the relationship besides money for sex none of the emotional, romantic, lovey dovey, real relationship stuff.

Then the women in the relationship are stereotyped as attractive but young and stupid. Honestly I don't understand why any woman would want too lower herself to that. I mean I wouldn't want to be or to even be seen by others as a self-absorbed, completely artificial, lazy, stupid, oversexualized, woman in a meaningless relationship.

[otterpuffs]

Research and maybe talk to a few girls that do it so you have a heads up in what your getting into. There's nothing wrong in it as long as both parties are happy and no ones being harmed. I just make sure everything is fair and no one is being taken advantage off good luck girl!

[hotjamale]

Just out of curiousity, why is it tempting for you? Why not just get a good job, and a guy you actually want to be with? Both of those things aren't necessarily EASY to come by, but they are rewarding and fulfilling... two of the most important things in life.. two things you aren't going to get with a sugar daddy.

You are probably not going to feel anything for this man except resentment after awhile I would imagine. That's how I would feel anyway.

I would definitely not do it, but if you really want to, go for it.

[cdutchie]

1st, I posted this on severadifferent boards to catch the attention of a larger group of people, to ensure I was posting on the appropriate board for the topic, and to receive a wider range of opinions and intelligent answers.

2nd, being open minded is seeing things from another persons point of view. seeing as widespread as these kinds of relationships are, I believe there has to be more gratifying aspects to it than receiving gifts for sucking dick. Sorry, if that is such a stupid and wrong thought to have.

3rd, you started your post off saying that you are open minded yet the remainder of your response consisted of buying into stereotypes, basically writing it off as a relationship for old rich men with nothing but money to offer, and dumb gold diggers with dollar signs in their eyes.

i personally believe that there has to be more to the relationships than young whores and old perverts, but maybe that's just me.

[stayclassy]

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cdutchie wrote:

1st, I posted this on severadifferent boards to catch the attention of a larger group of people, to ensure I was posting on the appropriate board for the topic, and to receive a wider range of opinions and intelligent answers.

2nd, being open minded is seeing things from another persons point of view. seeing as widespread as these kinds of relationships are, I believe there has to be more gratifying aspects to it than receiving gifts for sucking dick. Sorry, if that is such a stupid and wrong thought to have.

3rd, you started your post off saying that you are open minded yet the remainder of your response consisted of buying into stereotypes, basically writing it off as a relationship for old rich men with nothing but money to offer, and dumb gold diggers with dollar signs in their eyes.

i personally believe that there has to be more to the relationships than young whores and old perverts, but maybe that's just me.

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Then why can't he find himself a woman that *doesn't* care for his money... And not one that is after him solely for his money.

He specifically wants someone he can shower with money and gifts so that he can get what he wants in return but not get involved in commitment and your emotions.

Anyway, contrary to what I have posted so far, I am actually torn and do not seem to have a fixed opinion yet. I feel I need more information on it and I have seen it on shows and even read it in the paper.

On one hand, I can understand that both parties are adults and can consent to have whatever relationship they want to have. After all, we have friends with benefits type of relationships. Is this really that much different? Both people are using one another.

On the other hand, I do judge the women who do it as women who are too lazy to work for their own life and have to go sell their emotions and sex in exchange for trips, money, gifts, whatever. It sounds like work to me-- you have to keep up your appearances or the men will move on to another gold digger. I also judge the men as people who see women as gold diggers they can use for sex and companionship so far as they want to pay for it.

[scuzz]

Chill out bro haha

I only mentioned the multiple posts things because it makes things confusing and such for the active girls on this website.

I know what being open minded means and I honestly am haha.Like I said I really could care less if you choose a relationship like that but at the same time you are the one said "I'm just wondering what other girls think of it" so I told you what I think.

Also even if you believe there is something deeper to a sugar daddy/baby relationship (though I'm pretty sure the main point of that type of relationship is meant to be more of a shallow relationship) a majority of society believes in the stereotypes and if you can't even handle my comment without freaking out I don't know how you are going to be able to happily stay in a relationship like that as random people will say stuff like that all the time and you can't let that effect you if that is the route you choose to take.

Also just be extra careful if you are going the online route to find someone as people often lie on any dating websites etc.

[cdutchie]

That was the exact intention of my post! I'm completely on the fence and aware of the negative connotations that go along with being in this specific sort of relationship.

i definitely believe there are both ups and downs, positives and negatives. I just wanted to hear from some people that may have considered it before, know more about it, oabba e been involved in a similar kind of relationship.

[cdutchie]

I'm not really sure throw you can consider my reply to your comment as "freaking out" I wrote an articulaand response in a similar fashion to your own, stating where my beliefs On the subject differ from yours.

perhaps I should have made it clear that I was NOT looking for stereotype-based opinions from those whose only experience with this kind of relationship is from the "True Life" episode on MTV.

as I have stated, I am on the fence about this kind of relationship just like most other people. However unlike most other people I wanted to learn more about it from experienced individuals or other TRULY open minded women.