Relationship Issues & Advice

[lovestory789]

I broke up with my ex of 3 years nearly a year ago. At the time we had both begun universities in different areas and are lives were changing and i thought i didnt like him. I agonised over the decision but at the time it was 100% the right decision. For the first six months i was sure i had done the right thing. He had taken it really badly but wanted to remain friends so we did and for the first six months of the break up  i had absolutley no feelings for him.  

The problem is that for the past six months i think i have been falling back IN LOVE with him. I think about him all the time, day dream about him constantly.  The one time i had sex since then i spent the WHOLE time dreaming about my ex and how much better it would have been with him. But the thing is im not sure if my feelings are real or just me thinking im never goign to find anyone better than him. I am studying abroad next year and because of this i always say i dont want anything serious. Especially with him... ive screwed things up once before and i dont know if i could get him back if i screwed it up again.  The one time ive seen him since i had these feelings was at a club and i spent the whole night hiding in the toilets as i didnt want anything to happen between us (i could tell he did).

I am the most confused i hav ever been in my life, i broke up with him so why do i like him? If i do like him why cant i just admit it to myself?

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

[boomtiing_ox]

Usually it's really difficult to get over an ex - regardless of how long you've been together and how long it takes to get over them depends on the individual. In your case it's been nearly a year and it's in the last 6 months you've started to like him again. What happened in the last 6 month that's made you start thinking about him again?

You broke up for a reason and the reason being because of the distance and the fact you'll hardly have time for eachother due to being at university so being in a relationship with him really isn't ideal.

Just because you broke up doesn't mean you'll stop liking them. I'm assuming you had sex and you were with them for 3 years..that's a long time to be in a relationship with someone. Don't beat yourself up over liking him. All I can suggest is if you haven't already stop ALL contact with him. Also try to occupy yourself by going out or even doing uni assingments to try and stop yourself thinking about him. Obviously sleeping with or dating other guys doesn't seem to stop you thinking about him.

You'll get over him in your own time