Relationship Issues & Advice

[latindancer]

<p>There's this boy, I'll call him M. Well, two months ago he asked me out, and I liked him so I said yes. I had had a crush on him since last year, and my friends told me that he was dying to go out with me. But I also told him that I'm not ready for something physical and I don't want it, and he agreed and told me that he would not force me into anything I didn't want. Everything was great at first, but then he started to get close too much. I began to reject him (not verbally but with my moves) but he didn't understand; and everyone started pushing me to get closer with him, but I don't want this. I'm sixteen, but I'm not ready, and I don't feel comfortable when he even just holds my hand; and I think this is not something to rush about. Then our two friends started dating and just in a week they had their first kiss and they're french kissing all the time in class. They look so disgusting! So, M started to tell me that I don't do anything at all; and we don't seem to be dating because of this. I also can't go out with him alone (like to the cinema etc.) because in my country it is not considered as a good thing, and to add, I'm scared that he might kiss me or something.</p>
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<p>On the new year's eve, something happened, by the way. We were partying at a friend's house (I'll call him F) with parents, but we were upstairs. M wasn't there, and everyone around me were like my brothers and sisters. F is two years younger than me, but he's really handsome, blonde and has a great body, sixpacks etc. Any boy would be jealous of him. And everyone told me that I'm the most beautiful girl at that place, and they said that we looked like Abercrombie/Hollister models together, so we pretended that we were on a photoshoot and they took our pictures on my phone. They were drinking while doing that. I was fully dressed but F took of his shirt to seem like a real Abercrombie model.</p>
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<p>Two hours later, a drunk friend of mine accidentally sent the topless pictures of him and me (fully dressed) and he got really jealous, and I apologized like fifty times, and told M that they're like my family and nothing can happen with them.</p>
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<p>I mean, we're (and our parents) are really close friends. In summer, we stay in the same house, same room for 2 months, and they know my everything, they are like my brothers&amp;sisters.</p>
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<p>After a week after that, M also told me that he LOVES me, but I'm not really that into him. I think "I love you" is something to say when you really mean it, i dont feel that mature to have so strong feelings to someone. So I did tell him this, that I don't like him as much as he loves me.&nbsp;</p>
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<p>And a week ago, a friend of mine (a boy) called me and told me that he was on Skype with M (they are BFs) and I could listen and ask anything if there was something I want to learn. So I began listening, and after a while M said "Everything is over for me by now and I'm just dating her because I don't want anything bad to happen on my birthday party. The monday after my party I'll break up with her, and I'll probably date E, because she seems to have a crush on me and I can be happier with her, and don't have to put up with ridiculous issues which L has." (L is me.)</p>
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<p>I was planning to break up with him before I learnt this, but in a friendly way. I had been dating him because he's having his party with one of my good friends (a girl) at his house and I want to be there just for my friend.</p>
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<p>But now, I'm planning to break up with him in a bad way, a way that he'll never forget. I'll do it when I'm leaving his house after the party, and I'm behaving extra good, being like the ideal GF of him, so he'll be even more shocked when I break up. So, I'm trying to prepare a good speech that will include the following points:</p>
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<p>-He changed, and he didn't hold on to his promise</p>
<p>-I don't feel well about being touched and all the pressure on me about this</p>
<p>-I know that he wants to date E, and I don't want to embroider him anymore.</p>
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<p>I want that speech to be really powerful and something that he'll never forget.</p>
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<p>Please help!</p>

P.s. i'm not a native english speaker, so please understand my grammar mistakes if there's anything you'd like to be cleared, just tell
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[scuzz]

Sorry, but breaking up with him in "a bad way he will never forget" just sounds like a mean, stupid idea and not very mature at all and will likely just back fire and cause more drama for you.

If anything I would just talk to him in private since you both no longer even want to be in the relationship and just have a mature conversation and say you think you should no longer see each other and I'm sure he will agree.

I honestly don't understand why you want to be in a relationship at all if you are waiting until you are more mature to do anything physical (which is fine if you want to wait), waiting to get more emotionally involved, and you can't even really go out on dates together. There is a difference between holding hands and too much PDA like your friends though. 

[apple-tart]

Well I don't see a problem with holding hands or little kisses... I guess if you aren't comfortable with that it's fine but honestly I feel bad for the poor guy. I'm sure you made him feel pretty rejected. And you are making this seem like all this his fault when I don't really think it is. Just part ways and don't mess with him.

Planning to break up with him the way you are is just down right cruel.

[alegnatm]

you obviously are not ready to date right now. I dont see why you started a relationship with this boy if you don't feel comfortable just holding his hand. 

there is no need to pretend like everything is great and thrm give him some big speech before breaking up. Thats just immature, and completely unnecessary and it's going to make people think you are a mean person and that you play games.