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juicyjuice205
Posts: 6
Registered: ‎12-15-2011

Issue after issue...

Me and my boyfriend has been dating for 2 years May 9, 2012. In the beginnning, he used to flirt alot with two specific females he had to be crushing on hard. He would talk to them while we was on the phone on oovoo, fb, and twitter. He would say nice things to them he wouldnt say to me. Then this past christmas, he stated that he wanted to "**bleep**" one of the two girls... He use to talk and flirt with that girl all day all night on fb. I would be at home wondering is this dude gonna call or whatever. Now he makes me feel less because he is always looking at other females in my face, flirting with my friends in my face, and playing around with chicks in the class. Due to the fact my school has a boat load of females, payback isnt an option at all. He say he wanna marry me and he said he wanna do this and that but its hard to beleive knowing all the stuff that you doing now. He plays stupid and says the most immature things at times. When i try to tell him how i feel about something he would ask me questions ive already answered and throw me off. He know what he be doing when he do that stuff. We are 18 and we just happenly are going to the exact same college. I dont know if I will be ready to move into a relationship with him due to all this stuff he do. I go above and beyond for him. When he want sum and i have the money, i buy it. I do this and that for him and make him happy and any ways he may want. He do me like that on occasions. This is a no matter the occasion thing with me. It dont matter what day it is. But with him, timing is everything when it comes to being for me. Of course he apologizes when he do something and goes way and beyond to try and prove he sory just to do some more stupid ish. But at this point, I feel as if I should really just throw it in. Im not finna chase after him in college to see where he is and who he is with and where he going. It was weird to me that I had talked to a "potential" roomate for college and two days later he is friends with her already and he doesnt even know her.! That is just suspicious to me. He wrote on the college fb app that he was looking for friends and he wanted to make some and he wanted them to message him if they wanted to talk. That is absurd. Making friends aint hard for him. That sounded like a desperate plea for attention.! UGHHGHGHGHHGHGGGHHHH!!!  What should I do.?  

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kgoodman1
Posts: 2
Registered: ‎04-09-2012

Re: Issue after issue...

Ugh! what a loser... I mean seriously if he don't know what good hes got in front of him then he's better off kicked to the curb. I threated my now fiance who was texting and internet chatting with this girl and he left his phone home on one day of work when we just moved in together that same week and she started texting saying she wasn't informed he had a girlfriend ugh! so I went to his mom because mine wasn't around and she told me it was up to me.. so I decided I would talk to him and so when he came home I had went to our room laid in the bed crying untill he sat by me and I froze. He said to me he was sorry and that he was an idiot and didn't know what he was thinking that he was so stupid etc.. He said he would do anything so I told him that I wanted that cellphone gone, all of the accounts deleted, and that if he did had a phone only family is allowed in the contacts. Oh.. and the last warning I gave him was that if he ever did anything like this again I threatened him saying he will never in his life see me again. That got him crying.

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juicyjuice205
Posts: 6
Registered: ‎12-15-2011

Re: Issue after issue...

Well i did the same but im so stupid i never mean it cause then when i let him go he say stuff like "yo never loved me anyway" or " you wasnt in it to win it anyway" and im sittin here like "you da asshole who did wrong and you want me to feel bad cause i left you for doing wrong" then i take him back and it happens all over again. So i said what i was gonna do was the summer before college I was gonna see what I wanted to do and then see how the freshman year work out.... Cause i mean cmon... Dont you see it weird that he added my "potential" roomate as a friend and the girl doesnt know me and him go together yet??? oh yea... he hid his relationship status also... smh... he has me in so many wonders... he lied to his homeboy saying me and him never did it and im like wtf are you ashamed that you did it with me? and im like why lie? he is a HUGE liar... and  i know this yet i stayl..... i think im being a fool but my friend says wait it out.... cause for me to use to be a player and finally ready to settle down and for him to have had his heart broken with every relaitonship, he dont have to get his revenge on them on me i mean damn.! he know damn well he cant find nobody to treat him like i treat him....cause they aint finna put up with his smart comments... this is the first guy ive seen that is never gonna let his gf win an arguement.. a normal dude lets the girl talk and talk **bleep** but not him..oh hell no... if he cant get his point across he'll tell me go bak to my ex or some

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lightningrae
Posts: 47
Registered: ‎04-07-2012

Re: Issue after issue...

You need to leave that boy before he hurts you any further! You should NOT be treated like that. NO ONE should be treated the way he's treating you. Go let him be with one of those girls (or both of them for all I care) and let him see what a big mistake it is for leaving you.

You can find someone much more respectful than him!

ash, socal / indie rock junkie / yerd 
don't believe in things that don't believe in you.
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juicyjuice205
Posts: 6
Registered: ‎12-15-2011

Re: Issue after issue...

bad news... he left me because he felt as if the feelings were gone. but now he gets jealous if i hang with my male friends or something. he even subtweets me and think that i dont notice he replying to me. I still love this guy and I really think that we could make it. I want to go to couple counseling but.... (sigh) i would want to know that he want this to work

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Special_K
Posts: 464
Registered: ‎06-13-2012

Re: Issue after issue...

Leave him alone and move on. He's using you because he know he can. Your better than that. He doesn't deserve you. It's time to walk away.
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juicyjuice205
Posts: 6
Registered: ‎12-15-2011

he says that he done but why would you hold conversations...

he says that he done but why would you hold conversations with me then? If you done with something you won't talk to them right???

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Special_K
Posts: 464
Registered: ‎06-13-2012

Re: he says that he done but why would you hold conversations...

If you two are still talking, then he is just rubbing it in your face now.
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