Relationship Issues & Advice

[happysmiles]

Well, you see I'm a sophomore in high school, and I've never been kissed or had a boyfriend, and now me and this senior are talking. What is your opinion on my situation? Should I back away from this situation or should I just see where this leads? Because I'm pretty sure he likes me back. He seems like a good guy... Any opinions are welcomed! 

[MatildaLove · Accepted solution]

It is okay for a sophomore and senior to date. You just have to be more careful with dating age gaps when you are younger, don't mold yourself to his expectations of what dating should be for him. You don't want to rush to meet his experience, he needs to wait for you to be ready.

You have to also be aware that he will be off to college in a year and you will still be in high school. Your relationship has very little chance of surviving once he goes to college, if you two are still dating.

Just be careful, if you do decide to date him. He may be older, but don't let him set the pace. Be smart and know what you want. Best of luck!

[happysmiles]

Thank you so much for the advice! I'm sure to follow it! Thank you!

[scuzz]

I know you already marked a solution but I'll add this anyway though I mostly agree with Matilda as well.

I think people forget that when you are young you can date more for fun and not be looking for a serious long term relationship yet. As the chances of the relationship surviving are slim it is also okay to date a nice guy and kiss and go to the movies and out to eat and all that good stuff even if you know it won't last forever. Though that being said when you date more for fun and don't see yourselves getting married or anything like that both of the people in the relationship should know and be on the same page. Though there is also always a chance that fun dating can turn into something more serious as well it is just important to communicate with each other and always know where each other stand in the relationship and what type of dating it is. 

As "dating" can also of course mean going on dates and not technically being in a relationship. So there is always the possibility that one of you meet someone else you want to be in a more serious relationship with even if you are just going on dates. All of these options are fine but just be on the same page.

Also just as a side note it wasn't until I was a junior that I had my first boyfriend/kiss etc. He was also a junior. We are still seeing each other we are definately in a serious type relatioship and always have been.