Relationship Issues & Advice

[lilmissdiva92]

-Since age 14 been on & off for 6 years.
-Last relationship was for a year & she lost her innocence to him
-They were in love but broke up bc he had to move away bc he prev. lived w grandma & had no way to drive him to get act together (Job, Ged, License).
-He told her "I'll always love you, no matter what happens I'll back for you & that's why things will work out in the end."
-2months after he left he said "I think it's best if we worry about our own lives & said I mean that things are not going to work between us,I have things I gotta do.
-His mom &stepdad separated, he said he has to be the man of the house now.
-His mom & sis influenced & changed him bc he's a follower due to immaturity.
-His mom & sis have been jealous of the girl bc they would argue while dating.
-He deleted her on Facebook (which never would've happened before he moved).
-He has mild case of cerebral palsy.

[flamingoccm]

"I think it's best if we worry about our own lives & said I mean that things are not going to work between us,I have things I gotta do." 

Sounds like he's done for good. I'm really not sure how anything else you've said is relevent.

[shelbinatorxx]

He's done. Sometimes boys will say they love you and care for you but we need time apart, to make it easier on the girl. But it usually just means its done. They just say it to help you understand. Although I think it is one of the worst ways to go cause it leaves the girl attached and wanting more... tell her (or yourself, I can't really understand) to let go. Move on and live her life normally and one day she will find someone again. 

[mandakim]

sorry, but it seems like he's done. i think you'll have a long wait for him to mature.

there are a lot of guys out there who are more mature than him. find one and be happy

[cutexdancer]

who cares either way? why do you want to be in a relationship thats on someone else's time clock? a relationship isnt a revolving door - you're either in or you're out. he cant just dump you and then pick you back up when he's ready. 

a little harsh i know, but i went thru something similar recently and finally came to this realization.
you cant spend your time waiting on someone to change their mind or decide they're ready to be with you!

[lilmissdiva92]

What makes you think he's done if we were together that long. Don't you think if he truly loves me, that he isn't completely done with me for the rest of our lives or doesn't want sh*t to do with me anymore?

[flamingoccm]

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lilmissdiva92 wrote:

What makes you think he's done if we were together that long. Don't you think if he truly loves me, that he isn't completely done with me for the rest of our lives or doesn't want sh*t to do with me anymore?

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You're taking this so black and white--he either wants everything to do with you or nothing at all--but you're not paying attention to the actual situation. First of all, you don't have to be with someone just because you love them, so your "if he truly loves me" nonsense isn't realistic at all. Fact of the matter is that he told you in pretty explicit terms that you should move on to someone else, that it will not work between you. Move on, he's not interested in you anymore.

[stayclassy]

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lilmissdiva92 wrote:

What makes you think he's done if we were together that long. Don't you think if he truly loves me, that he isn't completely done with me for the rest of our lives or doesn't want sh*t to do with me anymore?

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How long you've been with someone has nothing to do with how long you will stay with them. People divorce after 30 years of marriage, your relationship at 14 is puppy love compared to that.

If he truly loves you? What's "truly" really... people that are in love break up because they realize the relationship is not a good fit for them. Love is not everything to keep a relationship together. You'll learn that as you grow up. "Truly loves me" also sounds like a fairy tale and life is not like that.

If he wanted to be with you he would be with you but instead he broke up with you.