Relationship Issues & Advice

[niqueboo]

OK so I'm sleeping with one of my somewhat close friends (we made an agreement to be friends with benefits a few months back) and have been having sex ever since but when I pay him attention he seems to back away but when I don't pay him attention he is all over me and the guy and I have told each other that we like each other but want to stay friends which is why we became friends with benefits but now I kind want him to be more and I want him to miss me and talk to me as much as he did when we 1st started this whole friends with benefits thing how can I win him over and make him 

1. MISS ME

2.HIT ME UP WAY MORE 

3.KISS ME 

4.WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH ME 

ps.saying tell him how you feel wont help I need real advice 

[AlyssaRenee59]

If you really don't want to have a heart to heart convo heres some things i think could maybe work.

1) Make plans with different people. Have fun and make sure he knows you are.

2) YOu said that when you give him attention he backs away and when you don't hes all on you. Well don't give him that much.

3) Play hard to get is what i'm saying let him know what he's missing out on.

Hope this helps!!

[niqueboo]

Any one else have any advice 

[boomtiing_ox · Accepted solution]

You've agreed to be friends with benefits which is what he sees you as so he has no obligation to speak to you regularly, spend time with you etc. You can make him miss you either, he'll probably be missing the sex if anything. You should speak to him about being in a relationship but if his set on being friends with benefits, chances are he doesn't want a relationship. This is why friends with benefits don't usually work because someone gets attatched.

[stayclassy]

Telling him how you feel IS the only real advice. You can't manipulate him into "hitting you up way more"

Your "contract" of friends with benefits says it's only about sex. If you want more you'll have to act like an adult and talk about it.