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Don't do anything until you are ready and want too.
Also don't let everyone else push you into thinking you are ready or wanting.
You or only 14! You should be enjoying being young still haha. I didn't even have my first boyfriend until I was 17 and we didn't do anything sexual until after 8 months into the relationship when we were both ready.
Also if he says he loves you and everything then he will wait until you are really ready and he won't continue to push you. It is good that you have already told him where you stand and you really shouldn't have to keep repeating yourself. Even if you love him and trust him and everything love and sex are completely different things. Also if you really aren't comfortable and don't fully trust yourself for him to come over at night when both of your parent's are gone then don't let him come over and hang out some other time.
When you are ready to engage in sexual activities just be sure you use protection. Even if you have protection you should also think through all the consequences of your actions before hand and be prepared to deal with any of them in the rare chance they do occur.
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lovelyone101 wrote:
Okay, so im only 14 and my boyfriend is sooooo sweet and loves me so much and we always talk about our future and stufff together. My parents both work nights, and he wants to come over one night when their gone. I know my limits and i told him specifically that i was not that type of girl to get into sexual things, but he talks about me beign his frist and that he loves me so much and things like that. I don't know if i should trust myself not to do anything, or even him for that mattter, but i love him, and i want to be able to trust him. My friends say we are PERFECT together, and that everyone envies our relationship. I l have told him many times that im not going to have sex until im ready, and he understands, but he's the type of guy that's a physical learner ... SO WHAT DO I DO GURL!!?
if he really loves you, he'll respect what you say........but.............boys aren't known for being restrained (or especially honest) when it comes to sex. what he says now....and what he says or does when your parents aren't home is likely to be a totally different thing.
one of my friends lost her v card to her bf at 13. he kept telling her he loved her so much and wouldn't ever do anything to hurt her. she told him she was a virgin but he kept telling her how beautiful and cute she was and how much he loved her....so she let him do it 
next day at school he dumped her and like told all his friends she was a slut and all kinds of awful things. she was devastated and even thought about suicide!
thats what i mean when i said that SOME boys aren't specially honest. they'll tell you ANYTHING they think you want to hear just so they can get in your pants.
my advice is not to let him cone over when your parents arent home......and also make sure he knows that NO means NO!
I agree with the other girls. You are very young and you are obviously not ready to take that step with this guy.
I also want to put this out there, just because you talk about your future with this guy is not a guarantee that you will be together forever. You do not have to do anything physical with this guy no matter how much he talks about how much he cares about you. You do not owe him anything.
I don't think you should let him come over while your parents are gone. It is only going to cause problems. Stand firm in what you want to do and don't let him make you feel guilty. If he doesn't stop pressuring you, then he is not the right guy for you.
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I agree with everyone else. You should NOT even let him come over to your house, in my opinion. Well...because even if you say no...bad things can happen to you when no one is around... and it would be terrible and the perfect opportunity to do something. Guys can be snakes in the grass. They can tell you how much they love you over and over and then dump you in the dirt (quite literally sometimes...) 
And for heavens sake you're only 14! Don't EVER let boys push you into anything you don't want to do (and even sometimes things you want to do). Overall, remember it's YOUR life and YOUR body. NOT his. Take control, and if he can't understand after you say no so many times...well...I think you know what you should do...
