Relationship Issues & Advice

[kayla88]

Me and my ex are both 18 years old and we dated my whole senior year and we started college at a community college together. October 19, 2011 is our anniversary and we broke up january 9 2013. Ever since college started in August he has been with his friends more and more but he always loved me and made sure he told me. He was good to me o,etimes and we fought a lot. The next Tuesday we decided to get back together we were doing good and thursday that night he went to a bar With his friends , I can't tell him what to do so he went anyways. Thirsty Thursdays . Dumb I know. He barely texted me and I worried. That morning he told me due doesn't think it will work and that he doesn't wanna try he can't be a good boyfriend and all this stuff but he still loves me. Then i find out he got a girls number and has been texting her added her on snapchat and then Instagram. I heard they talk a lot and she likes him, but already he is talking to other girls? He told the he never wanted Nither girl for awhile after we break up. He told me he truly loved me. But I asked him about it and he won't answer my texts or anything, I need closure. What do I do? The girl is a whore and always has to be with guys. he's in one of my classes and so is she. Help help help ANYONE. 

[alegnatm]

Obviously you have trust issues with this guy, and he proved you right by texting that other girl. He's untrustworthy, so get him out of your life! I would cut off all contact, a guy that's going to treat you like that is not worth your time, and you deserve mucH better.

I don't know what to tell you about getting closure, if you talk to him about what's going on he's either going to deny it which means he will be lying to you once again, or he will try and sweet talk you into getting back together or seeing him or something, or you are going to fight. All of these are bad and you will end up feeling worse in the end, just cut off communication and do what you have to do to move on. 

[kayla88]

Just sucks, I. Love him so much. I feel like i need him. my number and everything

[kayla88]

He blocked my number****

[alegnatm · Accepted solution]

I know, getting over that first love or even second or third can be one of the hardest things, but you will find someone better. And I know you may feel like you need him, but trust me when I tell you that you don't, the only person that you NEED is you, and now that you are single you should concentrate on you and do things for yourself. And I promise someone so much better will come along.

[kayla88]

How could he ditch me within a day for her?

[alegnatm]

because he's not a good guy, and you should be happy that you  got out when you did. You don't want to be with someone who will tell you one thing and do the complete opposite like that. 

[kayla88]

So how do I get over this? I can't. Eat or sleep. He already found a girl, she's obviously something I'm not 

[alegnatm]

Well first of all if you want to start moving on You can't compare yourself to her. Just try not to think about him or it, block him on Facebook so you aren't looking at his pictures, get rid of anything in your room that's his or from him or a reminder (or put these things someplace where you won't go looking through them) 

When my ex and I broke up and I was having trouble moving on I went and got a gym membership, working out helped me take out the stress and kept my mind off things.

So try taking up some activity or hobby that will help you take your mind off of him.

I promise it will get better, you just need to try and keep a positive outlook, I know how hard that may seem right now but it will get easier.

[kayla88]

Thank you so much! Idk what I am gunna do....