Relationship Issues & Advice

[SmileyVamp]

Okay, let me start off by saying that i believe that "I love you" is a very meaningful term that should be used only when extremely deep emotion is felt. Alright, now let's move on.

So I was texting my boyfriend. We are really open and honest and have talked about stuff that would be WAAAAAAY more awkward to talk about with other people, so the topic of his ex doesn't bother either of us. So he texted "I told my ex girlfriend that i loved her and she said she didn't feel the same and left. The she dumped me not even a week later." at this point in the text, I'm just thinking well her loss. He's a great guy. But then the text continued. "So, I have been afraid to tell you that, but yeah." I cant seem to quite figure out the ending. Was he saying he was afraid to tell me about his ex, or was he saying he's afraid to tell me "I love you"? Man, i wish the answer was niether! If he said "I love you", At this point in time, I wouldn't be able to say it back. But on the other hand, why should he be nervous to tell me about his ex? Heck, I've asked him about his ex before, so that shouldn't be awkward. Help, I'm confused!

[beckat3]

I think he's afraid to tell u he loves u. I think he's afraid that I'll break up with him like his ex did....I hope this is helpful

[skaitlin · Accepted solution]

It's probably a little of both. He was afraid to share something that broke his heart. It can be hard for guys to be vulnerable. And obviously it was hard to say if he had to say it through a text and not to your face. But he also may be trying to express that he has a hard time trusting and sharing his feelings because of what he went through. 

Don't read into it too much. He didn't actually say "i love you" yet, so you have nothing to worry about. Your job right now is to grow trust with him and keep being a good girlfriend. When the time comes that he says "i love you", if you aren't ready to say it back, then don't. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Don't feel like you have to just because of his past relationship. It is important that he learns that you are different and won't treat him the same way that his previous girlfriend did. 

[SmileyVamp]

Thanks for putting my mind at ease gurls =)