Relationship Issues & Advice

[xxobubblesxxo]

I'm not sure if I should break up with my boyfriend or not I like that he makes me feel special and he doesn't try to hide our relationship from his friends or family and I'm always around them. He acts like he likes me alot and he snaps at someone else if they say anything bad about me. But he is constantly calling me immature and he's always saying that he is the most mature out of all his friends and that he doesn't think I've dated a guy as mature as him before. He just over analyzes what I say, my friends don't even think what he thinks is immature is even my best friend who tells me the truth.

 We've been fighting alot early in the relationship because he is constantly picking at me. Another thing I have a problem with is how much weed he smokes a day (I just feel like he's not always himself around me), he smokes cigarettes and drinks ALOT but at least he's getting better with that. I'm just worried because he's really going to ruin his health early on. In the beginning he was trying to figure out why I didn't like him and he said it would be very easy for him to quit smoking but now he says that he will if he wants to or he won't if he doesn't want to and he doesn't care about his health in the future.He's also getting pretty selfish in bed sometimes. But I just don't know what to do I tried to talk to him about it but he doesn't care not even about what he says. Most of my friends are telling me to break up with him but I'm not sure what to do.

[Teddyet]

I would have to agree with your friends. You are trying to help him out and make your relationship better and it seems like he doesn't care what you have to say. If he really cared about you and loved you he would listen and try to make things better. Dump him because you deserve better. You deserve a guy who will not only listen to you but respect what you have to say and at the very LEAST give it some consideration. Good luck girlie

[xxobubblesxxo]

Thanks for your advice   I'm most likely gonna break up with him very soon.

[hol1dayz]

I used to have a boyfriend like that, I really liked the fact that he would always stick up for me and look after me no matter what. However, I've got a lot of mates I realised that would do just that. He sounds like he's a little controlling, you should try and speak to him face to face about the issues that are bothering you, and if he cares then he would help sort it out and listen to what you have to say. Lots of people my age these days does drugs like weed, smoke and that, mabee he's just going through a phase. However, if you don't like it stick up for yourself and tell him that. Don't stick around because he looks after you and isn't embarrassed by you, any boyfriend should do that for you and you've got your friends that would stick up for you, if he doesn't listen and make actions from the issues that you have when spoken to him then he isn't worth it, you should find someone who does listen to you and try and resolve the problems you have when needed to, at the end of the day if he cared then he wouldn't want to do something that upset you. Hope all goes well and you sort things out x

[leches96]

Wether to break up with someone is your choice, no one else's. If you don't want to, don't. its your life. all i have to say is that if you think about breaking up with someone, chances are you aren't satisfied with the relationship and that your subconscience already knows what to do.

[girlintheworld3]

Your young, life is supposed to be fun. You shouldn't have all this added pressure on you. I say you should break up with him. There's so many people around you, it will be really easy to find someone who really wants to be with you and Is willing to make sacrifices for you, that's real love.

[zaay-ellee]

I think you need to re-evaluate his relationship with him. Obviously things are not running as smoothly as you planned.

I'm not trying to discourage you or anything but when I stopped liking my ex-boyfriend I found so many things that bothered me about him and  I pointed it out.
He was annoying, selfish, inconsiderate, uncaring and my mom hated it .

However he has no reason to pick on you for the things you do because he has its flaws, everyone does and its normal.
He can't change you and you can't change him, but on the contrary if you don't want him to smoke than he shouldn't be. Its not good for his health and you obviously do not feel comfortable when you do it.

What I'm really trying to say is just figure out where you stand, listen to your friends because they are outsiders looking in, so they have a very important perspective and just make sure you are still happy and content in this relationship with him. Do not put up with his antics and behavior because it is not healthy for your relationship.  

[docgirl]

well I would say if you are having a lot of problems early on than it probably wasn't meant to be especially considering that the beginning of the relationship is supposed to be the honeymoon phase but anyways in my experience with my last boyfriend he and I had a terrible relationship and it lasted 2 and a half years I didn't realize the signs in the very beginning though that he was a controlling abusive person not saying your guy is but it definitely sounds like he don't care at the moment seeing as you told him your opinions and he doesn't seem willing to change so yeah I think it's best to get out of there and move on and yeah I totally met someone better after I got out of my last relationship and you can too