Relationship Issues & Advice

[maddie7210]

    I suppose this question might be a little strange, and I'm not really sure if other girls worry about this like I do, but I really felt like I needed to ask. My boyfriend and I have been together for awhile, although we've only been 'official' for a couple weeks. So he and I have a sort of biting fetish, but there's a bit of a catch. I can't bite him because if I do...well he gets a boner lol. My question is, what do I do if I accidentally give him an erection? Am I just supposed to ignore it and pretend I don't notice? I mean, I try to be careful because I'm a virgin and I know I'm not ready to adress that aspect of our relationship yet, but this question's been bugging me for awhile because I know it's bound to happen sooner or later... 

    Oh and I do have one other question. He's my first real, serious boyfriend, and he's had alot more relationships than me. Every time I kiss him, I sort of break it off. It's not because he's doing anything wrong, but I think he may feel that way. The real reason is that I'm afraid I'm doing it wrong (I only had my first kiss last November) and I'm worried if I keep it going I'm going to make a fool of myself. Any advice on how to be sure I'm not totally screwing it up? I've sort of talked about it with him, but not to an extent where he'd understand how shy,nervous and worried I am about pleasing him..and that's not including how awkward I feel when he starts with his tongue. I want to, but I'm not sure exactly HOW to.

[scuzz · Accepted solution]

You said it yourself that you guys have a biting fetish. Fetish's are sexual cravings or turn ons. So if he has a biting fetish it is only natural that he gets sexually aroused and gets a boner. Just because a guy gets a boner doesn't mean you have to do anything sexual past that though. I mean if you do it a lot it could be considered teasing which isn't normally a good quality. Though to stop him from getting a boner all the time you just have to stop biting him at least so much.

If you notice it isn't a big deal you don't have to act like you never notice his boner though you don't really have to address it or do anything with it if you don't want to though either. Giving a dude a boner isn't anything you have to be ashamed about or feel bad about if anything it is a compliment and shows he is being turned on that's all. Just remember don't let him push you into anything you don't want to do especially sexually!