Relationship Issues & Advice

[xgeorgiax]

So basically, my ipod classic is no longer working, and I want to buy myself a new one. I tell my boyfriend this, and he tells me "don't buy a new ipod, you don't need one, buy a cheap mp3!" Bearing in mind, my old ipod had 6000 songs on it, and there's no "cheap mp3" available which holds more than 1000. I like my music, and couldn't bear to be without my songs. He claims I don't "need" a new ipod, and I don't "need" 6,000 songs, and I'm an idiot if I buy one because I don't need it. I told him I didn't want to have to remove some songs from the list, he proceeded to call me a **bleep**wit, a spoiled brat, an idiot, I want everything my own way, etc. Yet the other day he spent a lot of money on video games that he didn't need, and he didn't see me complain about that. It was the same when I said mum was getting me GHD straighteners for christmas, he exclaimed "you don't need expensive straighteners, you can get ones just as good for so much cheaper!" (you can't). I did end up getting them for christmas, but I haven't told him cause Idk how he'd react. Am I really a spoiled brat for wanting to buy one luxury for myself? To me he just seems hypocritical. Rant over, I guess.

[apple-tart]

If you can afford it and it's something you'll really use then get it. It's your money so he doesn't have a say.

[beccsx0x]

No, you're not, but your boyfriend sounds like a complete asshole. I wouldn't put up with it. The very fact alone that he resorts to calling you names is a pretty huge red flag to me. 

[stayclassy]

Your boyfriend is just being insensitive and cannot place himself in his shoes. He doesn't realize that the importance of video games on him is the same as the importance of a quality straightener for you. He's just a boy that thinks as straighteners as a waste of time and money instead of understanding that men and women have different interests. PEOPLE have different interests from each other.

[alegnatm]

If you are buying it for yourself with your own money then its really not bis concern and you should tell him to go f himself. He sounds like a jackass 

[tinyxtrickster]

Spoiling yourself doesnt make you a spoiled brat. I would say that maybe he is caring about you with your money but with him calling you names and such.. it seems like he is just being jealous. Jealous that you are getting things and he isnt. Like, your not buying HIM anything. Only yourself. Which would make him a brat.

No, you dont need 6000+ songs because im sure that you dont listen to every single song. I used to have thousands of different random songs on my mp3 (which was NOT cheap) and one day i went through alot of them and had no clue why I even had them or what they even were. I guess its just nice to have different picks.

What if you tried getting into his personal money?? Saying that he is stupid for buying games? He would probably be pissed off right? He would say that it is his money and he can do whatever with it. Just like you. Its your money and you can send it however you please. Unless you both have a sharing savings account, he should keep his mouth shut.

When my hair straightener broke, I got upet. I like to do different things with my hair everyday and it sucked. When I showed my boyfriend, he tried to fix it. Then when that didnt work.. He offered to take me out and buy a brand new one. No matter the cost. I still paid for it because i would of felt bad if he paid for it but still. Your man should be more helpful or understanding about it. If he isnt about your needs, then either leave his sorry butt or dont be so understanding about his and see how he likes it.

[scuzz]

Hmm I have a lot of varying opinions on this
1st If you are buying something with your own money you aren't a spoiled brat (though this is just one case you are telling us about and you could be a bit of a spoiled brat for other reasons we don't know of)

2nd your boyfriend sounds like kind of dick might want to ask yourself why you are even seeing him if he is calling you names etc. Also if he is being hypocritical call him out on it. Not in a mean way but just to show him what he is doing.  Say why can't you buy an ipod with your own money but he can buy video games with his. Just recently I wanted to buy another nerf gun with a gift card I got for christmas and my own money but he told me not to waste my money  but all he spends his money on is fast food, video games, and drugs so he had no room to tell me how to spend my money. Though I didn't end up buying another nerf gun my gift card actually went to my birth control pills and new underwear.

3rd I can understand where he is coming from espically with technology now days. You are mostly paying for the brand name and not the product. You could buy a generic one for much less even one with a lot of gigs that works just as well. I've had my 2gb insignia mp3 player since January 2007 (so just over 6 years) I use it all the time and it still works fine. Even though mine is only 2GB it can hold a max of like 300-400 songs. I normally put a range of what I am currently listening too and after some months when I start to get bored I just clear my mp3 player and put different songs from my computer on to it. Really any technology now days is basically made to break. That way not as much time or effort or better materials has to go into making them and they just get customers to pay for it to get fixed or new uprgrades all the time instead (brand name or not). That is why in my house we still have all older technology and don't give it up until it is really broken. Like we don't even have 1 flat screened tv in this house. The tv in my room has discolored corners and every time you turn it back on it turns itself almost all the way up on a static channel and the buttons on the tv barely work, one of the tvs upstairs is completely tinted yellow.  I just got a dvd player for christmas but before that I only had my vhs tape player etc.