Older Girls (18+, please)

[Jbabiie03]

Hey gurls, 

Here is a little background on the story. I'm 22 and my bf is 29, we have been together since the summer of 2012, he is great, amazing, everything i could ask for. He treats me well, takes me out, does these little romantic things that no one has ever done for me before. I can see us going far. 

Recently we have been hanging out with two of his friends, one guy and one girl whom hes been friends with since highschool. Just out of curiosity i asked him if he had done anything with the girl we have hung out with, he told me they had this thing when he was 18 but he realized she was "a typical 15 year old" and just got out of the situation. so this thing happened 10 years ago, he says he never thinks about it because it was so long ago and they were friends before it happened and just stayed friends after. 

i do appreciate that he told me the truth, im sure it was not an easy thing to do but part of me is a little weird about it. i am not comletely jealous because he is with me now and we have a great relationship. i dont think this girl is a bad person and i do not hate her i just feel like little things might get to me when we all hang out again. 

is there any advice or words of wisdom to just help me not get paranoid about this situation?

p.s. i love this guy more than i care about his past that is why im trying to make sure i am secure with that it happened. i guess im scared because in previous relationships i would be a crazy psyco girlfriend lol! any advice is appreciated.

[alegnatm]

He's been completely honest with you which is more than can be said for most men.

Obviously you love and trust him, so don't go psycho girlfriend and mess that up.

my last boyfriend was good friends with one of his ex girlfriends and he wanted us to meet, which I wasn't too sure about or comfortable with, but in the end her and I became good friends and I talk to her more than I talk to him. Mostly just don't think about the fact that they have been together or else it will drive you crazy, and there really is no need to be like that since it happened years ago and they have no interest in each other now. 

[flamingoccm]

So let's just get this straight: you ask him a question and now you're going to freak out about his answer that you wanted? They had a thing TEN YEARS AGO. What could you possibly have against this girl?

[Jbabiie03]

I agree. I am glad he was honest with me, of course in an ideal situation i would have wanted the answer to be no but i am okay with the fact it was yes. I deff do not want to mess this up and 10 years is alot of time. as long as the girl does not get too touchy feely on him i can see myself becoming friends with her, she was pretty nice and down to earth (no drama, which i like).. but that is what i need to do is just not to think about it  cuz thinking about it doesnt help. deep down i know everything you said but its nice to hear others opinions to just reasure myself, so thank you for your reply!

[Jbabiie03]

i never said i was going to freak out, i simply said thats how i would react in previous relationships. i also didnt say i had anything against the girl i just said that i feel a little weird about the situation and might feel a bit odd if they had become too physically close while we were hanging out. i realize i asked him the question and had to be prepared for any answer that was given, no need to come off harsh, i was only looking for a little reassurance. but thanks for your imput. 

[stayclassy]

I don't think you should worry about it. It was a long time ago.