Mental Illness Support

[Sparrow]

I have a friend and I'm really worried about him and my own safety. He has told me he has this alter ego, who can be angry, cause hime to harm himself, make him feel really depressed, and very sexual. His 'alter ego' has came out in my presents and i hide my fear that his sharp insults caused. Then when we were talking online, his alter ego said he would kiss me if i liked it or not, even when i tried to firmly but kindly as possible say no. I didn't want to upset my friend if he read back the messages. My friend is alot stronger then i am, and if he tried to over power me, he could do it quite easily. 

What precautions can i take, and is their anything i can do to help?

[flamingoccm]

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Sparrow wrote:

I have a friend and I'm really worried about him and my own safety. He has told me he has this alter ego, who can be angry, cause hime to harm himself, make him feel really depressed, and very sexual. His 'alter ego' has came out in my presents and i hide my fear that his sharp insults caused. Then when we were talking online, his alter ego said he would kiss me if i liked it or not, even when i tried to firmly but kindly as possible say no. I didn't want to upset my friend if he read back the messages. My friend is alot stronger then i am, and if he tried to over power me, he could do it quite easily. 

What precautions can i take, and is their anything i can do to help?

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How old is he? 
Late teens into early adulthood is when schizophrenia can start showing symptoms. The fact that he's referring to this as an "alter ego" tells me that he does not view this person as himself...maybe another personality? DID (disassociative identity disorder)--formerly known as multiple personality disorder--is INCREDIBLY rare, and unless he's experienced a serious trauma recently, I'd say schizophrenia is much more likely. Regardless of the actual diagnosis, if he is a danger to himself or others, you have the right to have him put under watch at a hospital. If you could persuade him to see a doctor, I really would suggest that. I would also say that you should try not to be alone with him until this gets sorted out. Fact of the matter is that he does seem like he would harm you. If you are in a situation when this "alter ego" is present, then I would be as firm as possible, even if it means you have to get mean. I think your safety is more important than whatever his feelings may be. Obviously, he isn't in control and he does need help.

[Sparrow]

Well since my last post this guy has sexual assualt two of my friends. The first time he blamed it on this alter ego, however when defending himself he said that the girl was exaggrating it and that he was the true victim. Which has leed us to believe he is actually lying about this alter ego because at first he claimed he knew nothing about what happened then he tried to down play what happened which means he knew what happened and was lying in the first place. 

I had informed staff of my concerns about his messages to me about kissing me, with which nothing happened. Then he sexual assualted my friend. Even with intervention then it didn't stop him from doing this again. I think now the police have been notified and are getting invovled.

I have been told by the staff that handle him that he has a tendancy to exeggrate the truth and i have witnessed first hand how easily he can lie, even though he knows he is going to be found out. 

I am no longer friends with him because i do not trust him, even though i have given him a lot of chance and i have tried to be as supportive as possible. 

[flamingoccm]

I think you've done everything you can do. I think it would be wise to stop contact with him for your own safety.