Fooling Around

[OliveKateX]

im not in a relationship, but i want to have sex. I'm still a virgin and don't worry i dont want to loose it because of peer pressure or anything, I just do. Theres this party on valetines day which my friend is holding and its a time for girls to meet guys and see if they hit it off, anyway the majority of the time one thing leads to another during the night.. Ive never been up for it, but this time I'm pretty sure I am. Do you think its wrong, immoral in anyway?

Olive,17,Uk

[_chippylove]

I don't think that it is wrong that you are curious to have sex. Sex is something natural and shouldn't be something to be ashamed of. However, as a young women it is important that you value yourself as a young women. For example: having sex to just have sex isn't an issue but do you really want to do it at some party with some guy you never met before ? Where is your worth? This is an issue that I see a lot these days with young females. Try to do better and know that you deserve better. The patterns you create now WILL become a cycle if you let it.

[becky12]

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OliveKateX wrote:

im not in a relationship, but i want to have sex. I'm still a virgin and don't worry i dont want to loose it because of peer pressure or anything, I just do. Theres this party on valetines day which my friend is holding and its a time for girls to meet guys and see if they hit it off, anyway the majority of the time one thing leads to another during the night.. Ive never been up for it, but this time I'm pretty sure I am. Do you think its wrong, immoral in anyway?

Olive,17,Uk

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Theres nothing wrong or immoral with wanting to have sex. Perfectly normal function. Just make sure you take precautions and dont end up pregnant or with some STD. That would be irresponsible and careless on your part. Your confidence is good and I am sure you will have a great time because you are not starting out scared or anxious, the decision is yours and you seem perfectly comfortable with wanting to do it. Good start. Congratulations for not having some silly hang ups!!

[becky12]

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_chippylove wrote:

I don't think that it is wrong that you are curious to have sex. Sex is something natural and shouldn't be something to be ashamed of. However, as a young women it is important that you value yourself as a young women. For example: having sex to just have sex isn't an issue but do you really want to do it at some party with some guy you never met before ? Where is your worth? This is an issue that I see a lot these days with young females. Try to do better and know that you deserve better. The patterns you create now WILL become a cycle if you let it.

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Chippy, can I ask you something? How does it make a girl worthless if she wants to have sex with someone she doesnt know?? This girl as you can see is confident and wants to do it. Do you think she becomes worthless after she has sex with someone she doesnt know? Look all these things about worth, morals, values, timing, waiting for the right person, thinking about the future etc etc are all ways of controllling you and preventing you from having sex early. Look, for those who want to follow those guidelines, thats fine. But imposing that opinion on someone or making judgements about values is just simple and plainly WRONG. I lost my virginity very early to someone I had just met. He was older too and my friends just left me with him. I was very naive and at first I was stunned when it was all happening. He was great, made me at ease and made sure I was okay. He knew I was very young and he was patient. I didnt talk at all that weekend. My friends kept asking how it was. Now looking back I think that experience was great. Ive grown up a lot and I dont regret anything what happened. Am I worthless now and do I feel worthless? Not at all. So please, that label of worth is an attempt to make the person feel guilty about doing something which is a perfectly normal function. Thats not fair.

[S0Exciited]

Well becky12, having sex is completely natural and normal. Casual sex is cool BUT having sex with someone you don't know at all is irresponsible. It's definieltely something I wouldn't go around supporting. Even if she did wrap up, condoms do NOT completely protect against all STD's such as herpes!

[nakkiemusic]

If yu wanna have sex yu wanna have and ILOVE UR HAIR COLOR!!!

[OliveKateX]

Thankyou for all your advice, I just wanted to say I didnt have sex and am now in a relationship. We're taking things slow but I'm happy about that, it means now i've got things to look forward too.

Aw, I ombreyed it, so its my natural colour just blonder at the ends x