Hey all,so I want to start by saying that my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years.. he is nineteen and I am seventeen..he has weirrrdd sexual demands lately. along with telling me that he wants to get me pregnant, talking about sex as if we're both like animals, he has a serious castration fantasy.. he's said that he wants me to remove his scrotum and keep them for myself so that no other woman could bear his children... he's even suggested mutilating MY BODY.. (he wants to have my clitoris(so I cannot easily be pleasured by another man) I looked that up in Unconscious fantasies and the Relational world by Danielle Knafo and all I could make of it is that it has something to do with unresolved issues with his father, and repressed femininity?(well, I kind of believe it.. his father sometimes pushes him right to the brink of suicide) but it was dense and I could be wrong.. anyways I checked an emotional abuse website because he did use the term to describe himself once after a fight.. and they say one of the red flags IS a bad relationship with the father. Plus I'm black, he's jewish.. and that's not a problem except for when he tries to make it about power you know slave/master kind of stuff (wow don't mean to creep you out) but it was said that that's all apart of the whole castration fantasy they want to experience things they've never felt: power, guilt, humiliation? I feel its all a little contradictory though..it's no longer a fantasy he says he wants to go through with it.anyhow, I'm having enough trouble trying to understand why he wants to do this and what it means for us anyways..He doesn't want it NOW but he says if we have children then certainly. I think that since we've begun learn about each other sexually I'm learning so much about him and really I'm scared for him.I'm just trying to understand him and HELP him if he is truly suffering from some thing bigger than sexual frustration. maybe I only needed somewhere to vent being that having our loved ones aware of our bedroom secrets is unnerving and rather, a reason for him to not trust me.what steps should I take to figure this out without hurting his (way tooo delicate lol) ego? and if it's a step we decide to make when the time comes.. how do I tell him that I will help him do what he needs to have done but I will not hurt myself in the process?Thanks alot guys.IF YOU HAVE A BOY THAT LOVES YOU AND CARES FOR YOU AND YOU NEVER WANT TO LOSE HIM PASTE THIS IN YOUR SIGGY.
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