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Just wondering what some of you gurls think about it. And by "hooking up" I don't mean strictly having casual sex, it could be anything sexual though (handjob, blowjob, or sex if you want to go that far without the commitment).
I know girls are always seen as "sluts" by other girls if they do this, and I don't think this is fair. If guys can do it and usually no one thinks anything of it, then why can't girls?! Some girls have higher sex drives than others, and everyone needs their needs fulfilled once in a while.
luv2duv wrote:
It isn't bad as long as you do it without any pressure and because you want to. If a guy pressures you then it's bad. Also I don't think giving and hand job to be really sex. Not even a blow job Is real,sex because there is no penetration.
Yes, I totally agree! Hooking up should be a mutual thing. Yeah I wasn't saying hj/bj is actual sex haha, but obviously a bj is oral sex.. but if I gave a guy a bj I wouldn't say I had sex with him.
for some people, I think casual sex is a terrible idea. For others, it's a great idea. It all just comes down to personality types and morals.
Personally, I dont really like hooking up that much but I dont NOT like it either. I'll have one night stands when I want to, I just dont usually want to. And now that ive got a fairly longterm boyfriend, I definitely dont want to 
I think there is a fine line between having fun and having completly no self respect. Where I'm from girls don't get called a slut for having the occosional one night stand, or hooking up with the same person who they aren't with.
I got called a slut, because I was. I had absolutly no self respect, I slept with anyone, I didn't care if I was single or they where single, people I just met, and more than one person in one night. I think that is where the line has been crossed, not only because it hurts others, but it hurts yourself. It completely destroys your self esteem, and everyone see's you as easy because you are!
If a girl is single and has a high sex drive and hooks up with a couple of people that isn't a slut, and where i live in england you wouldn't get called a slut for that.
So although I don't agree with the label, I think there is a point where someone needs to sort their lives out before they ruin them! Cause I did and it took my a long time to sort myself out.
I don't see anything wrong with having lots of sex, even more than one person in a night. I DO think its wrong to cheat, though. i'm 16 and i've been w/ a LOT Of guys (and some girls) and I dont apologize for it. Ever. I'm easy and I'm ok with that...
-maddie
Trust me you won't always view things the same way. You probably think I'm being judgemental and prudish.
But I could give you a run for your money on the amount of people I've slept with and all the crazy sh*t I've done.
I lost my virginity at 13 and never stopped sleeping around after that. It was only when I was 18 I realised I had a problem. I used to say oh, i just love sex, i have a high sex drive, blah.
Which yeah might have been true in the beggining. Its okay to have one night stands but when you realise you cant stop, you can't drink without having sex with someone. You can't say no. Being a 'slut' becomes a part of who you are. Thats what everyone know's you as. You have no control over it, you are putting your own health and safty at risk just to get laid.
That's when problems start. I had a serious self esteem issues and it took me a long time to realise that and a long time to get over it.
But besides the fact that by having unprotected sex (i saw in one of your posts) with lots of men means you could contract life threatening diseases, or end up pregnant and not knowing the father of your child, or having to abort your baby. You go off with random men who could do anything to you. Meaning that you are constantly putting your physical health at risk.
You are probably putting your mental health at risk.
You are worth more than sleeping with every guy who wants to get their dick wet. I'm not saying don't sleep with anyone, or dont have casual sex. But those men aren't sleeping with you because they like you or think your fun they want to use you. And they probably slag you off behind your back and say horrible disgusting things about you.
Even the people who you think are your friends.
You will find it very hard to meet someone who will respect you enough to be with you when you are ready to settle down and treat you right if you don't respect yourself.
But if you truly belive you aren't causing yourself any harm and you are completely satisfied and happy then, good! Forget i said anything!! I just don't want anyone to feel the way I did.
