Family

[Clare]

My parents are divorced, so I have to go to his house once a week on thursday and every other weekend.

He really makes me sad whenever Im there... 

He asked me what I wanted to be when I get older, so I answered I want to have art involved in my job. But no. Apparently Ill be poor as hell, no guy will want me, and end up becoming a deadbeat. Really strikes up my confidence, yah?

Im 15 and weigh 125ish. He always tells me I need to lose weight and fft skinnier. Once he wouldnt let me have dinner because im "fat". (He actually said that)

I dye my hair a new color of brown every month and hes yet to notice...

My 15 birthday was when I was at his house, and he forgot it. so as a gift, he gave me a half eaten can of whip cream everyone put their mouth on. 1, I dont like whip cream. 2, nasty. 

He just makes me feel so ignored and forgotten 

Whenever I try to stand up for myself he just starts screaming saying im a bad person, then goes listening distance away laughing while telling my stepmom what happened (the stkry is 90% false) and saying how messed up i am (for defending myself?)

he just makes me feel so crappy and i loathe going to his house... my mkm says i have to deal with it for now 

[Clare]

Btw, I typed that on my phone so try to understand the mistakes 

[russianred]

Actually regardless of what ever the court order says, you DO NOT have to go anywhere you don't want to go.  And you can ask a lawyer that if you like.  If he's making you that uncomfortable, then by all means seek out guidance from a lawyer.  And I'm sorry, I know this is your family and all, but if you mother is telling you to deal with this...  I don't know.  That bothers me.  

[alegnatm]

Don't go, seriously like your dad sounds like a total jerk who gets off on making you feel bad about yourself and its probably because he feels bad about himself so hes being mean to make himself feel better.

I don't usually give advice like this, but if they try and make you go over there you should throw a fit and be a big pain about it until you get your way because he's not treating you right and that's just not a healthy place for you to be. 

[hotjamale]

Wow your dad sounds like a real **bleep**. Tell your mom exactly how you feel, and don't let her make you go. You're old enough to make your own decisions. If she does make you go, just leave as soon as you get there, that's what I would do.

Also, I feel like I should mention this - you are NOT fat, and your dad is really big a sshole for even saying that.

[Pjmsh2023]

I have a similair problem, except your dad sounds meaner. but my dad does similiar things, when i said something to him i was told i was disrespectful. then he kicked me out. I say you dont go. Its a suckish feeling having a dad that doesnt treat you right, and not going even though its not really enjoyable can make you really sad. and it maybe scary to actually stop going. But it will be better for you. So please get out of there. I'm pulling for you, goodluck!

[lucidkitty]

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russianred wrote:

Actually regardless of what ever the court order says, you DO NOT have to go anywhere you don't want to go.  And you can ask a lawyer that if you like.  If he's making you that uncomfortable, then by all means seek out guidance from a lawyer.  And I'm sorry, I know this is your family and all, but if you mother is telling you to deal with this...  I don't know.  That bothers me.  

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Actually yes she does have to go see him, as a custody agreement is bound by law. If she just up and decides not to then her mother will be charged with contempt of court. Only if she felt afraid for her physical safety could she or her mother refuse a court order. And even then they have to prove to the judge the reasons why that is the case. The only way she can stop at that age is of a judge alters the custody agreement. And even thought he might be an emotional s hithead that's not likely to happen.

[TheBottomLine]

DAD IN THE HOUSE!!!!!! Yo, print this entire thread out and give it to him. At least that way he is aware that he is failing and will know the reason he will one day die alone. Should any violent repercusions arise, hit me back and we'll discuss the future of his ability to walk.