Family

[FioreLove]

So right now I need some advice, my mom got marríed about a month ago, she had a long distance relantionship for a year and now we are living the three of us together. The thing is that this guy is kind of tearing my mom and I apart, we have been always really close (we lived always the both of us, with noone else for the past 15 years at least), but latlety we never talk, like just the 2 of together, i cannot gossip with her because his husban is always arround, and i must admit i feel left out.. like my mom still cares about me, but things are really different, she thinks that giving money so i can go out will make it, but i need to talk to her, as we did in the past. And for some reason I still don´t know, I am afraid to talk to her about that... don´t want to mess her merriage, she seems relly happy, but i feel so left out, like I am not importan any more.

[MatildaLove · Accepted solution]

Try planning something the 3 of you can do together. I know it's always been your mom and you, but since your family has grown this might be a nice opportunity to try and include him. He might be feeling a bit left out too, since your Mom and you have this close bond. It might be awkward at first since you are used to just your Mom, but it will make your Mom happier to see you trying to include him and you will become more comfortable talking to your Mom with him around.

Also, talk to your Mom about having a girls' night, or a shopping trip where the two of you can spend some time together. But, be flexible on the time frame, she is also a newlywed and probably is still enjoying her newly wedded bliss. Give her a little space too, she probably wants a little bit of time just between her and her new hubby which is why she gives you money to go out. You are still important to her, and you'll always be her daughter, I'm sure she is just transitioning and still trying to figure out the right amount of time everyone needs.

[FioreLove]

Thank you very much darling. I will try the three of us thing and girls night out