Cutting & Self Mutilation Recovery

[cestin_forever]

so..... i have this friend who is going through all this stuff and she only told me part of the story. anyways she cuts herself and im trying to tell her she should stop or get help. it took me 2 hours to convince her that everything is going to get better. but im afraid shes gunna keep cutting herself. what can i do to help her?

[TheSunInHerEyes]

Hey girl, so sorry that you and your friend is going through this. You need to be completely honest with your friend. If she keeps self harming, then maybe telling someone (your mom, school counselor, her mom, etc.) would be the best option.

Understand that your friend will be very upset, even angry, that you told somebody her secret. Let her cool down, after getting some help she'll understand that you did the right thing.

Good luck girl xoxo

[cestin_forever]

thank you. i told my friend and he tried to help her. idk if she did stop or not. but if i see sighns of it i will definetley tell a counseler

[TheSunInHerEyes]

Good luck to both of you

xoxo

[Gothic-Angel]

I understand that you want to help your friend but I think to be honest all you can really do is be there for her. Let her know you are there to help her and to listen to her if she needs. Look up some helpline numbers in your local area and give them to her, she may call them in her own time, unfortuently you can't make her stop all you can do is listen and support her.

[lemon232]

i understand how you feel. it took my best friend four years to convince me to stop and get help. do not give up. keep trying to help her. you need to convince her it will only make things worse. i almost killed myself one night while my bestfriend was over sleeping. it scared her so bad she cried for hours so did i. you cant let her do this. never give up. good luck. if my bestfriend could do it i know you can help your bestfriend too. i hope it works out and your bestfriend gets the help she needs

[Gravy]

I wouldn't tell her parents (or anybody who would tell her parents) unless it is life threatening.  I just know personally, that if somebody found out about my SI and told my parents that I might actually kill myself.  There are a lot of hotlines that she could call to get annonymous support first.  Whatever you do, don't do anything behind her back.  If you need to tell an adult, tell her  first so she can prepare or let you know how she feels about that.  If she threatens with suicide than she can be watched correctly while she gets help.  I just want to make sure that it doesn't all come crashing down on her at once if you decide to tell somebody.  But the fact that she told you about it means that she does want to talk about it at least, so make sure you're there for her and try to agree on ways that she can get help rather than making a decision for her (not that I think that's what you were up to or anything, I just want to be honest from my own perspective).

I hope this helped, don't be scared about what I said, if she wants help and is reaching out to you, just work with her and everything will get better.  You're great for being there for her.