Cutting & Self Mutilation Recovery

[alegnatm]

I think that he has seen my most recent scars on my arm. We are sexually active so that's the only time he could have seen them since i wear long sleeves all the time And I have seen him look at my arm more than once when I was getting dressed after, and he's made a couple comments that make me think he knows.

i know that he's not going to bring it up, he isn't much to talk about emotional things.

is it something that we need to talk about? We've only been together a couple months.

anyone else been this situation? 

[Amy56]

Ive been in a similar situation, except when he saw he just asked what it was. I lied but eventually ended up telling him later anyway because I couldnt bare keeping secrets from him. If he's already seen the scars, then you havent really got anything to loose by explaining. He might be confused or worried about you, so you should probably just reassure him. Having his help might help you stop, too

Hope this might help a little

[DaisyDreamer]

I think that if you are just honest with him, it will make your relationship stronger anyways. Telling somebody that information shows that you trust them, and are open with them about your emotions. I think you should bring it up, and try to explain to him. Good luck gurl. 

[alegnatm]

Thank you girls, it's just hard to talk about things with him because he's not a big talker at all. it's going to be hard for me to bring it up but I feel like its made me who I am and he should know, and then at the same time I feel like its nice that he doesnt know, and I am also worried he's going to judge me for it or just think I am crazy.

[Anujay]

I was also in a similar situation. However when he asked, there was no way I could lie. Talking it out made it so much better because there was nothing to hide after. 

And honestly, if he really loves you, then he won't judge you. And if he does judge you, then maybe he's not worth it. 

All the best ! : ) 

[daisy18]

I was in this situation about three months ago. My boyfriend said to me: "I heard from someone that you cut, and i just wanted to check with you before making any assumptions." I came out and told him that I did, and he told me he loved me and that it was okay, and that he's glad I'm doing better. It was so much nicer to be honest with him than to have to find it. I doubt he will think you are weird, or judge you. I mean, that's what boyfriends are there for; support. I suggest telling him what happened. He'll appreciate the honesty, and it'll help you two grow closer. Good luck! Private message me if you need to talk! xx

[Squiggles!]

Been There Done That. You Just Need To Tell Him. He's Your Boyfriend, Hes Concerned. Tell Him How You Feel Whether He Dislikes Emotional Talks or Not, He's Supposed To Be Your Support and Help You Through Things. Not Stand By and Let It Happen.