Birth Control

[paperheart228]

Hey ladies,

so recently I had sex with one of my exes (long story, but we're on good terms). We had sex twice within the same night and we used a condom both times. The condoms we used were Trojans and they were new and I was very careful putting them on and he pinched the top of it, just like you're supposed to. The condoms didn't break and everything was fine, except he finished inside me. I'm a paranoid freak of nature when it comes to this stuff, so of course I have a mini panic attack about this almost everyday.

We've had sex multiple times before and we were fine. My mind just keeps coming up with these crazy 'what if?' questions all day, every day. I know I'm going to get my period, it just comes at the end of the month so the waiting is killing me. We had sex on the 18th of December and I got my period on the 23rd. He then visited me and stayed the weekend with me on the 28th of December, and we had sex twice that night. so now I have to wait until around the week of the 20th (January) to get my period.

I just need to talk to someone about this so I can get some peace of mind. This was the first time he ever finished inside me so it's a little different than the other times. I've already talked to multiple people about it and they all tell me the same thing. 'The condom didn't break, so YOU'RE FINE'. If I was on birth control, I wouldn't even be worried. but I'm not. and I also know that stressing out about this will delay my period. which will inevitably give me a small heart attack. 

Sorry, this is ridiculously long and probably not even necessary but I just need to hear from some other girls that I'm freaking out about nothing. What do you think?

[scuzz]

Well the real point of a condom is to allow you to have protected sex meaning the are made for him to finish inside of you. So if it isn't broken it is fine. I know it is pretty easy to become paranoid about being pregnant though. You should really consider using another form of birth control if you are going to remain sexually active mostly if you will keep getting paranoid. I'm on the pill and my boyfriend and I use the pull out method on top of that but with no condoms. I still occasionally get paranoid but those are generally the days when I'm not the best at taking my pill on time and such. Just try and chill it is likely fine... Also just in case you don't get on another form of birth control and one time he does finish you and the condom does break or come off or something like that consider at least getting plan b. (But only in actual emergancies! not to be takin everytime you are paranoid.) I've been paranoid many times but only took plan b once.

[flamingoccm]

I think a healthy dose of education is a great treatment for paranoia

With proper use of condoms, there's only a 3% chance of pregnancy when you use condoms alone. Obviously, yes: it's possible that you could have gotten pregnant. In fact, even on birth control pills, there's a possibility. However, the likelihood you would have ovulated less than a week after finishing your period is practically zero, making the likelihood of pregnancy practically zero.

No worries!

[ayeayeaye]

If the condom didn't break and was put on right, then you're fine. The odds of the condom breaking in such a way that you wouldn't notice are very small. Don't freak out, stress can cause you to delay your period which in turn can cause you to think you're pregnant and freak out more... you get the idea. Just calm down, you're probably fine. The point of a condom is to prevent both pre-cum (which is a risk of using the pull out method without a condom) and sperm from getting you pregnant. Don't fuss.