Being Single

[sha_shamarie]

me and my boyfriend been together for a long time and never had our first kiss im thinking hes scared or he doesnt want to really be with me

[firestorm104]

just because you haven't had a first kiss doesn't necessarily mean the worst. i've dated guys before and waited months for a first kiss before . . .when it happens, it'll be worth the wait. but if it brings down your confidence, ask him about it, or kiss him first, and then you'll know how he feels for sure

  as for your question, it really depends on the person, but the best way i can describe it is the feeling of everything crashing down on you and feeling like you can't live without that person even though they're already gone, but you'd do anything to have them back. it's like being in a trance of your thoughts that you think you can't escape, and you stop believing anyone who says it'll get better because it feels impossible... even though it will happen sooner than you think. the moment you have everything in that one perfect person you want forever, that's when you'll know what the alternative would feel like

[Beckah]

Well... For me it felt like the end of the world. I was crying for days when I was alone in my room; Since the girl at the time wanted our relationship to be private, I couldn't tell anyone how I was feeling. That was the worst part of it all, not being able to confide in anyone, ask for any advice.

I won't go into detail because it still pains me to remember what she did to me, after I gave her my all. But it was pretty painful... She was my first relationship ever, and she just... Tore me.

But now that it's been 2 years since our break-up, I can realize how mean she actually is... She was ruthless. I never should've fallen for her in the first place.

I got hit pretty hard though. So don't worry about it.

Oh, and I've never had my first kiss yet... Ever. But when you're both ready, I bet it will be VERY special. 

[Anti-shego]

Well to me I had both physical and emotional symptoms. I would cry and my chest would hurt/ tighten up. Like it felt as though I was having a minor heart attack. What that was was a case of broken heart syndrome

[RagingLeftie]

Just because you have never been in a relationship before doesn't mean you have never been hurt, have you ever been through something really difficult? Have you ever lost someone close to you? Your feelings are yours and you can't compare them to anyone else's what you find upsetting someone else wouldn't etc etc. Even if someone tells you what a broken heart feels like - it may be completely different for you. But you well know it when it hits you, I wish I could say it won't but it gets us all in one way or another.

[Megstar]

When you really have a broken heart, you won't have to ask this question.

My ex dumped me randomly, I didn't expect it at all. I was physically aching for days, I didn't want to eat, I couldn't stop crying. He was all I was thinking about and I doubted myself like crazy. Luckily though time does heal it.

[cheatmosphere]

In my case, my first love was also my first heart break. When I experienced my first love, it was so special to me and I fell very hard for this person. When this person ended our relationship, a part of me changed and became very cynical. I was so angry at this person and at myself. I blamed myself for the break up, although I now understand it was not my fault.

I tried to deal with my feelings of sadness and loneliness by dating again but I discovered that nobody compared to my first love. I then decided the best approach was to heal myself before becoming involved with another person because I was still in love with my ex and therefore could not "love" anyone else. I was expecting the process of moving on to be quick and easy, but the truth is, that it was not. I constantly found myself depressed and lonesome and almost always thinking about my ex. A good 80% of my thoughts revolved around this person. It took me 3 years to completely heal and much to my surprise, the healing process came naturally to me once I accepted that I would no longer be with this person and time healed me, not another person.

To answer your question, if you were truly heart broken, you'd know. You'd feel it. When I was heart broken, I wouldn't always show it outwardly but inwardly I always felt it. When I'd be alone I'd often cry and felt valueless and unwanted, I couldn't see myself with anyone else and I felt no desire to be with someone else. I was always sad and miserable but as I healed, I realized that it's pretty silly to be so upset and depressed over ONE guy, when there are so many others out in the world. And yes, many guys are not the "right" guys but you won't know what they're like if you're stuck on one particular one. 

I felt that I'd never love anyone again and that I'd always be in love with my first love and a part of me will always appreciate, respect, and value my first love because with it I learned the concept of love and its power. Moving on is easy once you accept the circumstances and it is possible to fall in love again. I used to be the girl who could never love anyone else and now I'm even in a successful relationship with a guy whom I love very much and whom treats me properly. Because getting my heart broken taught me not only taught me to love again but to love myself and know my worth.

[maemaeandjose]

Sweetie every heartbreak is different some feel like your heart being ripped out while others feel like you are numb to everything. I have had my heart broken a lot (well enough to be jaded) but everyone was different and some made me want to take a death penalty to get back at the guy, while others felt like a watching a bad and strange movies and I was starring in it. Not all heartbreaks are god awful.

[mawwyxx]

It depends on how bad it was. There could be times when you could get over it quickly but sometimes it could take you days, months, or even years. The worst I've experienced was just last year and I've felt like I was going to self-destruct. I would cry every single day just because I heard a song or read something that I could relate to, I became more blunt about things, I barely cared about myself and the people around me. A huge change happened to me and that alarmed my friends so they decided to have this support group to lift me up again and well, I'm back on track again.

Anyway, with regards about the one with your boyfriend, though kiss is a sign of affection that doesn't mean it should be the basis of feelings, it is the connection you both have together not only as a couple but also as friends. Your boyfriend probably  doesn't want to rush anything so my advice is to let it all be and go with the flow.