Being Single

[BeliebInMB]

I am crying like a fool right now. I have a mental problem. I have liked about seven guys since the sixth grade. (currently in the 9th grade, 15 years old.) All of those guys have treated me like a dog. In sixth grade, one of them, "J", told everyone that we never dated. (when he and I both know we did) He made me look like a fool in front of everyone. Some of my friends didn't even believe me. It was already hard enough being the new kid, but J called me names, said that he never liked me and he never will like me, and took advantage of the fact that I still liked him all through middle school (until he moved). BUT I STILL LIKED HIM.

Another one "C" (which I kinda stopped liking him) used to text me all the time. We were such good friends. I could tell him anything. He was so easy to talk to. I DID tell him everything. (which is why I eventually started liking him again, bc he was easy to talk to). But in eighth grade, I guess he got too cool for me. He stopped texting me and even when I reached out to him, he just ignored me. Which, he doesn't have to be my friend, or text me, or even like me. But I felt betrayed. One of his, that hated my guts, would always talk about me (and I liked him too) and C started to join in. I felt embarrassed because he knew so many of my deepest secrets and he even called ,me "stick", referring to my body shape. Another reason why I should have dropped him. But I didn't. I STILL LIKE HIM.  

I'm gonna skip a couple of guys and fastforward to high school. I like three guys (which is already too many). BTW's I go to private school now. So two of them kinda have an inside joke with like all the other guys in my math class. It's about me. Apparently I smell, and don't take a shower. They walk by me and sniff like they smell something. Which I know is not true cause I smell like my strawberry soap that use in the shower every day. Why would like a guy when he treats me like this? I don't know (because there is nothing THAT special about ANY of them). My friend has tried telling me over and over that she knows some guys that would treat me way better. But I'm just always scared that they would think I'm too ugly, or skinny or that I act too "white". Whatever that means.

I really need some help here.

[Imma_WildFlower]

I know its hard to control who you like especially if its someone you've known and been friends with in the past. Most guys your age are young and immature. They are more about silly things like social status. As you all get old those things start to get less and less important. Now what they are doing to you in class is very very mean! You can either ignore it, hold your head up and just let it roll off your back until they get tired of it OR talk to a teacher about it. I would recommend the second one (talking to a teacher) but it is up to you. Bullying should not be tolerated and I am really sorry you are going through that!

No one deserves to be treated like that by someone you "like", dont put yourself through it. There are plenty of guys out in the world. Wait for someone who will appreciate you for all that you have to offer (: Trust me, it might take some patiences but he is out there and you will find him! 

[theDreamer03]

Hello Beautiful Creation! Yes you are beautiful no matter what. You don't need make-up, hair dye, or brand clothes. All you need is confidence in yourself that you are AWESOME! Screw those guys who don't realize your awesomeness.

Sweetie, I know you don't wanna hear this but You're still a freshman!Right now, you're at an age of discovery. This is the time of adjusting into your class schedule, finding true friends, AND discovering who you are. What kind of person do you want to be? What are your special qualities? What do I want people to remember e by? What do I believe? What do I like to do for fun? Once you get to know yourself, you would want a guy who likes you for YOU. I don't think freshman year is the right time to find a boyfriend. Lower class boys are immature and don't know how to treat a lady.

Personally I don't know you but I believe that you are sweet, caring, hard-working, intelligent, adorable, and silly chica who is a lil boy crazy It's okay to be boy crazy! And you're probably a hopeless romantic like 99% of the world's population of teenage girls. That's alright but I don't want you to be in the hands of some loser that won't care about you. In middle school I wrote down a list of "My Perfect Guy". I hope you do this too and have high standards about what you want in a guy. Standards as in "has a good sense of humor, a total sweetheart, and makes me happy"; nothing superficial like "super rich, buys me presents, and likes sushi". But I think you should also make a list of "Awesome Things About Myself" which is list things about yourself. It's important to like a guy who notices all the awesome things about you. Remember to love yourself because if you don't, how can you love another guy?

ps: Forget about all those middle school crushes/boyfriends. You're in a bigger tank now- it's called high school! Nobody cares about who you dated when you were a kid. Now that you're in high school, there are more mature guys and you have more options. And if you need help, remember that you're not alone! And you have GURL.COM to help you

[BeliebInMB]

Thank both of you guys so much for replying and helping me out. I am boy crazy and I am a hopless romantic. I can't help it. And I know that I'm also oversensitive and overdramatic. It's who i am and I think I'm going to try to leave boys alone for a little while. Try to figure out who I am. I'm not going to try to look for love, I'll just let it find me. As cheesy as that sounds.

Thanks again.

xoxo- Shianne

[theDreamer03]

WOW! You sound pretty mature! I'm proud of you ;D

And patience is a virtue. Besides, it's more fun to not expect anything. Just let things fall in place. I hope you always love yourself and find a reason to smile. Because you are one in 7 billion.