Being Single

[artchick]

Just wondering when you girls experienced your first kiss, or even the first time a guy liked you.

I'm 19 (going on 20 in a month) and no guy has ever liked me and I've never been kissed or anything. 

I recently found out that most people experience their first kiss in the range of 13-17?

I had no idea people were even thinking about the opposite sex, let alone KISSING boys in high school. 

What was I doing while everyone else was experiencing love?! Why have I not been allowed to take part in this yet?

[MatildaLove]

I still haven't experienced my first kiss and I have recently turned 20.

The first guy to like me, as in really like me, not just a guy who wanted a girlfriend and would chat all kinds of girls up, I met in November when I was still 19. I went on my first date in December, haven't been on any since but one of my guy friends and I are working on setting up a double date.

I wouldn't really sweat it, what most of those other people were experiencing wasn't love. At times I have felt a bit insecure about it, but then I think forward and am much happier that I wasn't going around kissing a bunch of wrong guys.

I've really blossomed in the last 6 months, I created a whole new group of friends and have worked on forming friendships with guys as well. It has helped me a lot with my dating life, by being more comfortable talking to guys (a bit less awkward) and forming friendships with guys (who wanted to set me up with their friends!).

[OwlCityFreak]

I'm 19 as well, I'll be 20 in July, and I'm right there with you! I've never had a boyfriend, and I'm a virgin. I've been made out with twice, but I don't really count those as 'real' kisses. 

I had the opportunity to get together with a guy, and after thinking about it, I decided I wasn't ready. I've learned that I need to love myself before I love someone else wholeheartedly, and I'm insecure about my body. 

My point is, everyone has a different time when they are ready to pursue relationships. If you're not ready, then that's fine! Don't let anyone tell you you're too old. If you're young at heart it doesn't matter what age you are!

[artchick]

Thank you for this! I really struggle making friends and I definitely don't have many. I have a disorder where it makes it difficult to form relationships with other people. I try really hard not to "become" my disorder, but as i keep getting rejected it makes it even more difficult to break out of my shell.

I'm working on making some new friends though.

[artchick]

I am totally ready though! It just sucks that no one else sees me as a suitable person to date. 

I love your tom hiddleston gif too!

[skaitlin]

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artchick wrote:

Just wondering when you girls experienced your first kiss, or even the first time a guy liked you.

I'm 19 (going on 20 in a month) and no guy has ever liked me and I've never been kissed or anything. 

I recently found out that most people experience their first kiss in the range of 13-17?

I had no idea people were even thinking about the opposite sex, let alone KISSING boys in high school. 

What was I doing while everyone else was experiencing love?! Why have I not been allowed to take part in this yet?

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You are normal! I don't want to just repeat everything everyone else has said, but I want to stress that being almost 20 and never kissed is NOT a bad thing. It is a blessing that so many people don't realize. I know that the culture these days says that if you are in high school and never kissed then there is something wrong with you, but that is such a lie! 

I encourage you to focus on your life right now, whatever things you are passionate about, dive into those things. And before you know it, there will be a guy who notices you and loves your passion for life! Trust me, don't waste time looking for the right guy, he will come along. Be patient and don't stress. 

Always be yourself and learn to love life and things will work out sooner than you think. 

Message me if you want to talk more.