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long distance relationship and cant tell my family

pelletier101 — Sun, 23 Dec 2012 15:44:42 GMT

i have been in a long distance relationship for over a month now and i like him alot and ik he likes me he tells me how he wants a future with me. we talk text and skype and i love talkin to him he means alot to me but i dont know how to tell my family. i know they well not be very accepting of him . and i want him to meet them before i tellthem but currently that cant happen. so i dont know what to do .. im so confused i dont know what todo advice please

Re: long distance relationship and cant tell my family

russianred — Sun, 23 Dec 2012 15:50:56 GMT

It's only been a month. Give it time, lots of time. Don't rush things.

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pelletier101 — Sun, 23 Dec 2012 15:56:36 GMT

thats how i feel but he wants me to tell my family and he wants to put it on fb buut idk he told so many people so i feel bad .. but he doesnt understand how my family is ..i feel bad and i feel like he accepts it but doesnt understand where im coming from

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ryvb3 — Mon, 24 Dec 2012 05:36:04 GMT

Out of curiosity, have you guys met before face2face? Or did this start as a long distance relationship?

Re: long distance relationship and cant tell my family

stayclassy — Mon, 24 Dec 2012 06:19:12 GMT

Have you met in person?

Re: long distance relationship and cant tell my family

pelletier101 — Mon, 24 Dec 2012 12:22:15 GMT

started long distance and no :(

Re: long distance relationship and cant tell my family

ryvb3 — Mon, 24 Dec 2012 15:12:15 GMT

It sounds like you're having doubts about where this relationship is headed. As much you like the guy and he likes you, that's all there is.

It's only been one month so I agree with the not rushing into anything.

Again another question: you say you skype - does that mean the webcam thing, or just typing?

Re: long distance relationship and cant tell my family

pelletier101 — Mon, 24 Dec 2012 15:18:19 GMT

we webcam and type or both sometimes it depends

Re: long distance relationship and cant tell my family

stayclassy — Mon, 24 Dec 2012 16:57:30 GMT

I would wait on telling your parents about him because it doesn't sound very serious.

I don't think you should change your Facebook status either because well.. people will ask you questions like "have you met in person" and won't take your relationship seriously when you answer "no". How old are you? And how old is he?

thats kinda how i feel about people not thinking its ser...

pelletier101 — Tue, 25 Dec 2012 17:44:36 GMT

thats kinda how i feel about people not thinking its seriouse but ive never felt this way about a guy idk what it is about him and im 17 hes 18

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stayclassy — Tue, 25 Dec 2012 21:40:34 GMT

How do you know though? You've never felt him physically close to you, you've never held his hand, you've never felt his heartbeat. How well do you know him too?? You only know what he has told you (wants you to know) and you haven't experienced his world.

I'll be honest, I also don't take this seriously and I don't even know you.

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pelletier101 — Wed, 26 Dec 2012 01:19:51 GMT

idk the way he talks to me when i see him on skype and idk theres just this connection... the only reason you cant take this seriously is because youve never experienced this.. and he told me from the begining some pretty bad stuff that he has done in the past and if he were to tell me that stuff i dont think hes hiding anything and i dont care about the stuff from his past because its in the past before we were together

Re: thats kinda how i feel about people not thinking its ser...

stayclassy — Wed, 26 Dec 2012 20:32:20 GMT

Lots of people have had a connection with the wrong people, online or offline.

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russianred — Tue, 15 Jan 2013 15:15:19 GMT

I have to tell you from my own experience, I've been in your shoes, it's not serious. You think it is, you think it's wonderful, and amazing and all that good stuff when you're with him online. But when you get off line and spend time with him in the "Real world" I promise you it will be different. Sure maybe it could be better, but we're still very young at just 17. There's plenty of time for "Serious" relationships, for now just enjoy the online relationship you're having but remember it's just that an online relationship. I mean think about it, are you exactly who you portray yourself to be online or are you maybe who you think you "Want" to be?

We all play a role when we log on and sometimes that role is a bit different than the person we portray in the real world. It's the same thing for him. Until you are together in the same room and spending time together in person, this relationship should not be taken seriously.

Re: long distance relationship and cant tell my family

sashaxben — Fri, 18 Jan 2013 18:27:04 GMT

Same here with me.. Stay strong your not alone

Re: long distance relationship and cant tell my family

Crabgirl95 — Mon, 21 Jan 2013 12:16:05 GMT

i have the same problem with you, and what worst is we're not in LDR term. we met everyday at school, but doesnt talk to each other that much (cuz of different class and schedule) our time is only by skype and text. some of my fam know dat i'm in relationship, but my mom dont. its hard to keep it a secret, esp to ur own parent right? felt bad. but what can we do?

so the best solution is jus to let it flow, till the perfect time.

i may not give you the perfect solution, but i'm glad i know someone dat have the same prob wif me :)

Re: long distance relationship and cant tell my family

Cupids-Arrow — Mon, 21 Jan 2013 16:24:43 GMT

If you truly have strong feelings for him I think you should go for it. Just remember that you two have only been in a relationship for a couple of months so don't go rushing into things and just be cearful. Hope this is some sort of help to you.