17 and never been in a relationship/still a virgin?

What the title says- I'm 17, a junior in high school and I'm still a virgin and have never been in a relationship. I've made out with guys and have been felt up under the shirt and stuff, but I wasn't officially dating them at the time. Is this normal? All of my close friends except for one are in/have had at least one serious relationship and most have had sex. I feel like there's something wrong with me sometimes tbh..it makes me doubt myself and my looks/personality. I don't want to go to college and be completely inexperienced..any advice would be seriously appreciated!

Hey girl,

You have nothing to be worried about. I know everyone says "don't rush it and it will happen how it's supposed to happen", and I know hearing that can get annoying but it truly is the truth.

You just haven't found someone who you wanna be in a relationship with, and that's totally fine! Can't compare yourself to your friends, they also move at their own pace, so what if theirs is going faster than yours?

In 20 years, is it really gonna matter if you had your first relationship later than everyone else? No! It would be weird for everyone in your friend group to find their perfect guy at the same time.

So for now, enjoy the moment! Trust me girl, when you find someone to be in a relationship with, all of the waiting will be worth it:)

My love,?
I'm in the same boat as you, but even less experienced. Sometimes it gets to me. I realized I've never been in a serious relationship and everyone around me is hooking up. Sometimes i feel like the " ugly friend " because my friends easily obtain guys while i just stand in a corner. But then i realize the guys i'm surrounded with are literal trash lol. its bad to say that but every guy I've ever come into contact with isn't focused on the right things and they aren't mature. I've decided to just focus on getting into college and achieving what i want while in high school because i have hope that i will find someone in college. You're beautiful and just because boys don't approach you or show interest in you doesn't mean you are anything less. It just means they fail to realize that you have more to offer that what they see. Keep your head up(:

Hi Sk17,

Im also in the same position and understand what it's like to be, literally, the only girl in the class with no relationship experience. And even though you went off with fellas (Irish way of saying made out with), it doesn't feel like they same. I've only ever went off with one lad, and I've never had a boyfriend. But I'm ok with that for a number of reasons. Think of the boys you know in school, on your street or wherever else. Is there anyone you can actually see yourself being happy with them? Are they good enough for you? Do they deserve you? Most of the boys I know in my class are disgusting, sexist pigs, and I wouldn't want to even touch off them. This isn't to say, of course, that all fellas are like that, they're not. I'm just telling you that you need to realise your value and raise your standards and realise that this is your life, your body, your heart and your love, and that is not something you should share lightly. That way you will attract someone who is as worthy as you are. You need to learn to love yourself before you decide to share that love without another human being. You are beautiful, trust me.?

This may just be my introvertedness, but the best thing I can think of being single is spending time alone with myself. Reflect on life, dream your dreams, explore your interests and hobbies, discover your personality. It is good for the mind to have a little alone time to just relax. However it is important to socialise, and though a boyfriend (or girlfriend for that matter) is a very good way to develop loving, intimate and deep relationships, it is not the most important thing at such a young age. You have LOADS of time ahead of you. There is someone out there that matches your personality, or maybe counteracts it and brings out the best in you. And you will meet them. It isn't something that happens overnight.?

As for feeling left out or self-conscious about being single, don't. I know it's not simple, but just keep repeating "Who cares? I'm single and I love my life!" It takes time for it to actually sink into your brain but it does. You don't need a relationship to mean anything or be of any value. You are important, and special, and if people can't see it, then they're blind to your extraordinary personality and beauty.

Best of luck :)

It's not that bad to be single, I'm 19 and I'm a single and happy girl!! Nobody has ever died of being single. Don't let the peer pressure win, be yourself and enjoy life!!

I'm in a similar position, even less experienced. I'm almost 19, Freshman in college and I haven't had my first kiss yet, while all my friends are happily in love with their bf! It gets to me more than it should, I have to admit it; but what can I do other than wait for my moment to come??

Don't ?think about it to much, I made that mistake and got me nowhere! Just enjoy your life, there is still a lot of time to get in a relationship!?

it is NOT wrong with you. Enjoy the time without a boy and save your virginity for the right one.

Hey girl,
I wouldn't worry, it's your body and your in control. You can choose to just have a hook up and get rid of your virginity, because it really means nothing. It can be as special or not special as you'd like! If you just want to have sex just to get it over with, do it! If you'd rather wait til you're in a serious relationship, do that ! Relationships are harder to control than physical things because a hook up is only one night, whereas a relationship involves commitment. If you truly just wanna have sex, then do so, nothing is stopping you. You can't force a relationship though, and the time will come when it does. You can't push that. use this time to experience things on your own, and love will come when you meet the right person.

you are ONLY 17!
so much life and experiences ahead of you.
yes it sucks when all your friends are dating and eating each others faces off, but things change all the time, just don't limit yourself with negativity, go out and have fun

I wouldn't worry about what others are doing with their bodies and with their lives. Sex doesn't need to be a public contest to see who can rack up the highest score. I wonder just how much all these other people are enjoying ther sex they have. Are they satisfied? Are they just doing it to show off to others? If so, they should make sure they invite all their friends into the bedroom to watch, since it is after all nothing but a show for the crowd. I didn't have sex till I was 20 and I have no regrets about waiting that long. In fact, it doesn't even feel as though it were all that long anyway. Life has a lot of different aspects to it and sex is only one of them. Enjoy your life and don't get too preoccupied with only one thing. Be the best person you can be and live the best life you can live. But do it for you and not for your friends. Sex is about intimacy, so keep it that way; between you and your partner. The more people that are involved, the less meaningful it is.

Sweetie, I know your struggle, trusttt me! I'm 19, never had a boyfriend, still a virgin, never held a boys hand, and never kissed a guy before. So, believe me when I say I know exactly how you're feeling. In fact, I used to wonder if there was something wrong with me because no guys were interested in me. I used to wonder why I wasn't getting a boyfriend when girls all around me were already on their fifth boyfriend. This affected my self-confidence a lot; but, if college taught me one thing, it is that self-confidence is the most attractive trait a girl can have.

So, don't be afraid that you haven't found a "good guy" yet or been in a relationship yet. As long as you continue to be confident in who you are and what you have to offer, you will attract the right kind of attention. That being said, don't be afraid to put yourself out there. Don't be afraid to go to new events and meet new people. You can't be in a relationship if you're not constantly meeting new people ya know? Unless, ofc, you try online dating.?

That being said, being single is probably the most liberating feeling ever. All my closest friends are dating and yes, it does get lonely sometimes but I love it. When I go out, I don't have to worry about anyone telling me when I need to go back home. When I go out, I don't have to worry about who knows and who doesn't. I just go out becasue I have no responsibilities or attachments to anyone.?

All in all, give it time. I know that's the shittiest thing to hear and a lot harder to do, but I promise you that if you just love yourself and focus on honing your own skills (all the meanwhile being open-minded to meeting new people), you will definitely find a guy who will be attracted to you. Hell, I'm sure ther are guys who are attracted to you but they just don't know how to approach you! Oh! One last thing, if you see a guy you're attracted to don't be afraid to go up to him and say "HI!"!! We're in the 21st century now! No need to?always?wait for the guy to make the first move. Good luck :)


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