How do I deal with the urge to be intimate with my boyfriend?
Okay, so I am 13 and me and my boyfriend have got really close. We have been going out for nearly 4 months and have had make out sessions that have only gone as far as him touching my ass. And as I'm 13 I know I can't have sex and don't want to, but it has got to the point where I think of getting closer to him and I can't control it. So I dunno what I can do, help would be useful(: thanks guys <3

You can give him a handjob or oral sex. If you end up doing mutual masturbation just becareful where he ejaculates or if you or him have sperm on your hands and he touches your vagina. Those things can swim up inside and you can get pregnent even if you dont have sex. so just best to leave your pants on and please him if you wanna be totally safe :)

The best thing is to give him a handjob. Guys really like that. I wouldn't give him a blow job because you might get cum in your mouth and that could be a problem for you. 

I am also a virgin, but I have given blowjobs. The reason I say it could be a problem is every time I do it the guy wants to  cum in my mouth. The problem is do you let him or not. For me it depends on what kinda mood I'm in. Sometimes I have really liked it and other times I feel like gagging and throwing up.

Hey, Im 13 too & yeah dont have sex.. I did it & I was stupid, no I didnt get pregnet thats a good thing,but I made a bad decision.. but dont you think its a little bit to early? Tell him to wait an Year. My boyfriend & I had sex when I we turned a year & a month but yet it was a stupid decision. Im glad im not the only one out there.

A lot of couples decide on limits, like going as far as performing oral on each other.  The great thing about that is that after you orgasm, your desire for sex decreases for a while and you usually feel satisfied.  One way is once he goes down on you or you go down on him, try to clean up and get around other people as fast as you can so you dont do through with your urge to have sex.  What you are feeling is natural and it happens to all of us, just some of us deal with our urges in differnet ways.

 

Hope that helps.


missflower321 wrote:
Okay, so I am 13 and me and my boyfriend have got really close. We have been going out for nearly 4 months and have had make out sessions that have only gone as far as him touching my ass. And as I'm 13 I know I can't have sex and don't want to, but it has got to the point where I think of getting closer to him and I can't control it. So I dunno what I can do, help would be useful(: thanks guys <3

mutual masturbation is a great way. Get him to go down on you. Its a great feeling. If you both want to do oral sex then use the 69. That way you both enjoy the sexual sensation at the same time and it is such an awesum experience. I had sex very early, almost your age when I started. I was extremely comfortable with it. I dont regret it one bit. It just felt good. I am a confident person and I feel my sexuality is my own business and no one can tell me when I should or should not have sex. But I was ready and I was going to have sex no matter what.

I think mutual masturbation would help but its just hard to not want to go the whole way once you start.

hehe I went all the way.. well my bf wanted to and 2 me evrythn was new and felt good. I just let it happen. Oral is awesum..like 69 is just..yeah awesum. U just need 2 do wat u thnk feel good n what u wanna do. i started very early 2.

Just wait, if you let your feelings control what you do then you'll end up going further then you want to and much further than you should. Just wait. You've got time. Once you start it's hard to stop.

Rach

Do not go all the way yet. I have been in exactly the same situation and believe me, I'm soooo glad I didn't go as far as a short kiss (no tongues). I know it seems like a really good idea to go all the way but it isn't. It really isn't. Wait until you are a little older, maybe 14 / 15, and you know the guy is a good person you can trust, because if you Do It with a guy who just wants to get into your pants it will only cause sadness in days to pass. and even if you don't go that far and only settle for oral, then it will still hurt if he breaks up with you. If you feel like going all the way though, you probably do just feel like that. If you get the chance to actually do oral though, you will probably be scared to do it. You are 13; it's most likely that you aren't ready, even though when you envision it you would like to do nothing more than go all the way. Sometimes it just doesn't go like that, so, as a solution, read dirty stories, watch porn, or masturbate instead. You will be glad that you resisted in the end, I'm sure.

Hope I helped, 
Bella~

I think you should try to take some distance, maybe don't make out as intensely as you do now, keep it at an age appropriate level, that way you won't be tempted :)

I am not sure who suggested that because you are 13 you cannot have sex. Right now as you can see your body and your hormones are urging you to get close to the guy. Do you think this is abnormal? I think this is a perfectly normal situation and that your body is dictating what is okay for you. I am not advocating you go out and have sex but plz dont be misguided by opinions of others who tell you that yo cannot have sex at 13.
What you can do it to fondle each other, mutual masturbation, oral sex etc etc and if you are okay with it you can decide how you want to progress or take things further.
Plz take precautions though. Plz make sure you dont fall pregnant or get an STD. That would be a terrible thing to happen.
Take control, learn about the potential issues and problems and take precautions. That way you will show everyone you are a mature and responsible 13 yr old who can be in control of her own life and sexuality. Being prepared is so important. No one talks about that. All they talk about is about being ready. Let me tell you NO ONE IS EVER READY. Not even when you are in your 20s. But being prepared is more important because if you do fall for the temptation to take things further, then at least you come to no harm. So be sensible.

 

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