Childhood Nickname

How can I get my Mom to stop calling me by my childhood nickname? I'm 23 and she calls me by it all the time no matter how embrassed I am. I don't want to be called by it anymore because the man who touched used to call me this nickname when we'd touch each other. She still won't stop and says "it's because your my baby and everyone I know does it."

Well, you could just have a one on one conversation with her and ask her nicely.? She's your mom though...and she's only gonna be around for a certain amount of time.? You might not mind it so much and wish she had said it more...when she's gone.

^^^ Just like this young lady said, you can have a girl to girl talks and ask her nicely that those nicknames are making you feel uncomfortable. I honestly don't think she's doing it on purpose, parents are like thst mostly because they always see us as their little kids, I think the least she wants is to make you feel bad so she will understand

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The point is being missed. The man who touched me used to call me that during dirty talks which is why I don't like it and my Mom doesn't seem to understand.

Does your mum know about you being touched by this man? If she does, just tell her it brings back really bad memories so would she PLEASE stop calling you that name.?

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I've tried EVERYTHING even telling her the man who touched me used to call me that during our dirty talks and even had my therapist it's a trigger for what the man did to me. SHE WON'T LISTEN.

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Wow that's so wrong. Doesn't she care about how you feel? Can you talk to your therapist and get him to talk to your mum??
He should understand how it makes you feel and try and make her stop

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I just said I have told her talk to my therapist and had my therapist explain the nickname is a trigger for me. Nothing helps. On top of it he was into mother daughter role play and she knows he would use the nickname during roleplay. My Mom evens has other family members call me the nickname knowing it's a trigger for the abuse all because I'm her "baby."

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I think your mum has got serious problems. She must get some kinda?kick out of torturing you like that cause she's obviously doing it on purpose. If I were you I'd be screaming at her "I'M NOT YOUR BABY......I'M 23!!!!" and then just refuse to talk to her until she gets the message.
Can you move out and live on your own??

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Currently saving up money and working on learning to drive so I can do so. After I pass my beginners I may just go to a charity we have here that helps people under 30 get housing and what not-but I need them to be pet friendly which most place here aren't. Welfare isn't also that hot.

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I hope you get away as soon as you can. Good luck :)?

 

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