NEED ADVICE PLEASE HELP!

For some reason from sixth grade to now (end of freshman year) my friends have always not shown any interest in me. For some reason they just stopped texting me, inviting me places, or anything. We still talk at school and sit together at lunch and sometimes it feels like we really are friends, I make them laugh, they tell me things etc.(Some of us in the group had been friends since Elementary). But then it goes back to normal. Since the beginig of misddle school I ve only been to one girl's house literaly twice for an occassion that wasn't a sleepover. They are inportant to me, but I know that I am not even half of that to them. I always am nice, its not like we had a fight or anything but they just snub me out. Recently I decided to text someone ?who I considered to be my best friend and thought she at least consideed me close and she just replied shortly to everything I said and when I asked her to hang out and she said "sure well get around to it" just to make it nonakward when she didnt really want to hang out. I know, she was probably busy but this sums up all my attempts. They all also have their own group chats and hang out together all the time but despite looking like a part of their group at school they never include me and It makes me so lonely. I go to a pretty small school and Im not really a set stereotype, so even though I should leave this friends there is literally no one else in my school I could ?go to and even pretend were my friends (sit by at lunch/class). Its really better to run on their heels so I at least have someone to talk to occassionaly than no one at all. Please give me advice!!!! I dont want to go through the rest of Highschool with no friends!!!!!!

Listen, I've been through something like this before and it is going to suck. its even worse since it's in school and you can't escape them or that feeling. i know that this is terrible advice but have you actually tried the other girls and boys in school. i know you said that there isnt really anyone one else but there has to be someone who feels lonely too? my friends are in school but i dont live near them or anyone for that matter so in school is seems fine but then i come home and i cans see on social media that they are out having fun. of course there is obvios advice like join clubs, but have you ever considered making friends with people who arent in your year? or even your school? it is hard, especially because youre not some little kid and its alot harder to make friends the older you get but all i can really say is try a pen pal, dont have the school as your only place to make friends and if worse comes to worse try confronting the girls and ask them why they mess with you like this. i know it seems hard and youll feel vulnerable asking them but let me tell you, once i told my friends that (from my old school, before I moved) it really opened their eyes in what they were doing to me. it is totally going to suck, but maybe if you start a job even at your local supermarket there will be people your age. i know it might make you look desperate but put youreslf out as much as possible. join clubs, get involved in your community. maybe your parents friends have children you age?​

 

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